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writes:Wife had an affair and she sounds very genuine that she is sorry, I can get over it but what i cant get over is He ejaculated in her and now I dont want to even touch her because I feel that her body has absorbed his fluids and he is always with her.Do I have a legitimate feeling here? If he used a condom it would be esier but she and he did not and exchanged sexual fluids, thank you and i am waiting for your honest opinions CD.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2010): what does she say?do when you say u still would not touch her?
you are entitled to still feel anger and you should she deceived you. she betrayed you.
so what happens now?
does she have contact with her (ex) lover?
what has she learnt from this affair?
do u see yourself resuming full hb/wife relations in the future?
take all the time you need. work on your hurt and mourn the loss of your marriage. then make a decision.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your replies.Some how i am still with her in a way. I still dont touch her any moore i said she needs a year to flush him out or maybe ill bring home some little wh_ _ e to swallow me down. and as you can tell, I just might be a little bit mad still.I tried to find out and had no results for this .{ one of the Planned parenthood STD slogans i heard is if u have unprotected sex your having sex with every body they had sex with and that keeps popping up in my head and because he dumps his load just makes my stomich turn.Does this mean he and I are having sex indirectly? I asked at several medical websites What wappens to ejaculate after sperm have died off and if no std's are contracted, what does her body do , absorb it? I look at things from all angles emotionally to microscopic . I hear you are what you eat. I hear of cheating wifes that get pregnant and the guy can get over it then raise the kid like his own I just dont get it and probably never will and I would love some feedback . Tnank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2010): You say you can forgive her, but you dont want to touch her. That doesnt sound forgiving at all. I do agree for testing on the STDs however you sound like youre going to hold this against her forever. You need to make a decision. Forgive her - completely - and never use it against her, or bring it up again. Or let her go. This behaviour will drive you both crazy if you dont.
Good luck !
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reader, Enzian  +, writes (17 November 2010):
 I can understand you and I think it is a legitimate feeling!
I suggest you both go and see a marriage counsellor! If she is not willing, you should go on your own. Because this is not an easy thing that will be over in a few days. This will take a lot of time and a lot of willingness. As you allreade forgave her, you seem to be on a good way!
All the best and a lot of staying power!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2010): You've got every right on earth to demand a full thorough STD testing before you touch your wife again.
Technically you could demand a full screening now and then another one in 6 months before touching her to be truly safe.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (17 November 2010):
This could be fixed, but will take a huge amount of time and effort from you both. You are feeling pretty much what anyone who has been cheated on (in the case of women who's husband have cheated, they often say that can't touch the man because he's been in another women). So you're truly not alone. But, for this to work, you need to be working with her to get over this. You need to both go to counselling, you both need to be honest about how you're feeling, and you need to know why she cheated. Also, an STD test would be a good idea since she had unprotected sex.
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