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writes: I dont know where to start...to cut a long story short i found out almost 3yrs ago that i may not be able to have a baby if i leave it too late. My bf and I are very happy together and havent used contraception now for 2yrs though we have been quite careful (he has pulled out) until this month, i think we just both knew it felt right and we carried on. Now i feel i am becoming obsessed with the whole baby thing! i cant stop wondering if i am pregnant. My period isnt due until 18th june and i cant get the thought out of my head! i have been getting strange bubbling twingy feelings in my right side, is this just wishful thinking or is this my egg being fertilized?? very greatul of any replies xx xx xx chantelle xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2008): Right there with you! I was also very preocupied with the whole baby thing, way before I even met my husband, but since the begining of our relationship we have been very careful, finally it came the time we both felt ready and starting trying. Sometimes even when your heart and your wallet are ready for this event, your mind might not be and you don't realize that, and that causes your body not to be ready either, prepare your body so you will have peace of mind and won't be thinking What can go wrong?, start taking folic acid and prenatal vitamis that help your body prepare for the little one and ease your mind of other worries. Usually when the egg is fertilized you will have what it seems like the end of the period, couple drops of blood that is darker than normal, (every woman is different)... wait a little bit and live your life normally, go dancing and celebrate the fact that you guys are ready, enjoy this time of your life, there are many months to try, but the secret is to enjoy it and not stress about it. Be playfull and don't turn the love making into a chore or a routine , it has to be creative and unforgetable for you and Daddy.
I would suggest to wait until the 20th and take the test, sometimes the hormone takes just a little longer to be detected. God Bless your family and good luck mom!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2006): Its sounds to me that you are obsessed with getting pregnant. I dont think it a major problem though to be wanting a pregnancy so bad, just as long as you and you husband are happily in love with eachother and are ready to have a baby together. As for the twingy feeling, thats just wishful thinking i think...just because you feel something on your side doesnt mean for sure that it could be the embryo attaching to the lining of your uterus, it could also be that you're ovulating. I dont think that you should stress so much about getting pregnant..stress can maybe keep you from getting pregnant. Go online and google ovulation calender..theyre are some sites that give you advice on when women ovulate. There are also ovulation monitors at Wal Mart or a pharmacy that could be very accurate at determining when and if you're ovulating. If that seems to be expensive, you could order ovulation monitors and test strips that are like taking pregnancy test, and also at home early detection pregnancy tests packages online thru the internet. All that comes in a package at a very low reasonable price! The package includes one ovulation monitor, 15 ovulation test strips, and 15 pregnancy tests for only $45 and they sometimes have them on sale for $35. You'll be saving alot of money. And they have discreet mailing. You could also go to the GNC health store and by some prenatal vitamins or these pills that I saw last time (you dont need a doctor for these!)that were called fertility hers and fertility his. Yes they have pills for men too. They help aid in getting pregnant. Some women arent so easy in getting pregnant, I took almost two years just to concieve. So dont freak out just because you dont get pregnant. Health matters alot when it comes to trying to concieve. If you smoke or do any other kind of drug, it may be a little harder to concieve. Eat more organic natural foods and excersise. Try your best to be healthy. Your partner has to be healthy also. I dont want to sound too graphic or inappropiate here, but your husband has to have his testicles cool and not in a hot place like him wearing spandex underwear or taking really hot baths in the jacuzzi. That affects the sperm count. Im not sure on the temperature, If his testis are over 90 or something degrees, he'll have a very low sperm count. Thats why its important to have them cool so that he could have a high sperm count. This may be ridiculous, true or not true, but I've read books that recommend to try certain sex positions in order to try and concieve. Sounds funny huh? Folic acid is the main vitamin that aid in getting pregnant. Just dont overdose on it because even though its healthy, anything you overdose on can cause you harm. If all else fails go to a doctor. I recomend going to a couple or even 3 just to get a doctors second opinion so that you could find a solution to your problem. Remember that not all doctors are the same, some might recommend to do a certain test while some think it may not be necassary and often miss the problem that you have. Most of all there isnt anything that helps the most than praying. Pray and you'll see how things turn out. If you think you may be sterile do that and you'll get a little miracle. Im sorry that this is too long, but I dont think there is anything more frustrating than not being able to concieve a baby of your very own. I hope this has helps. Good Luck!!!
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (5 June 2006):
 I have been trying for a baby for about 9 months and also have infertility issues so I really understand. I bought enough pregnancy tests to keep a small country going, but after a few months I just locked them away in a cupboard because it can drive you a bit nuts. You just have to relax and let nature takes it course. If things don't work out naturally then you can get fertility drugs from your doctor to give the whole system a bit of a jump start. But it is still considered normal if you are trying for a baby for up to a year by the medical profession so try to 'make babies' when you are ovulating (about a week to 10 days after your period), take folic acid and good luck!!!
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reader, miss nade +, writes (5 June 2006):
 Dearest Chantelle,
I always find that getting pregnant happens when you least expect it, have fun making love and relax. I have a mate who has had six miscarriages, was told that she would never have another baby, and threw all her baby stuff out only to conceive six weeks later.
Have fun and good luck with making a baby!!!!
Miss Nade
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reader, Aunt Audrey +, writes (5 June 2006):
 No point getting stressed about getting pregnant it will happen when it happens. Relax and just enjoy trying, don't worry if it doesn't happen right away it could take months for you to concieve, or it could have already happened, you'll know soon enough.
Good luck.x
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