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writes: hi i am 17 and work parttime on a Saturday. I am bi also. A boy who works outside the place where i work, on a market stall, he is very nice looking and i am attracted to him a great deal. he is not what most gay teens would go for i dont think becuase he is very grubby and the clothes he wears are not designer all of which dominate the such culture today although i like him, I have talked to him before a number of times. Once i was walking from behind my counter and he was in the queue. I didn’t notice and found him looking at me when i turned. Another time is when i made convo with him on my break. He was on his stall and i has walked past said hiya and asked had he been busy today. He replied “Not that busy” with a smile. I began to walk on and turned back to find him still looking at me walking. The other week i happened to go to the dentist in a different town to where i work, finding him leaning outside a fruit and veg store. I walked up to him and made more convo, and went to walk away he made more convo with me then so i stayed. He told me how he works here and on the stall on a Saturday. I have a feeling that he is gay from the way he acts, he doesn’t look it at all but from the way he talks to me and the way he acts i think he might be. Well either gay or bi i dont think he’s straight. I decided to ask him out for drink the next time i was over there, so i made an effort to go and see him, we talked whilst he had no customers and in amongst the convo i asked did he fancy going for a drink sometime after work. He shook his head, he said he don’t get home till late cos his stock has to go to the whole sellers so he don’t get home till late on any day even the weekend. But the way he said it was as if he wanted to or would like to but afraid of what may happen if you get what i mean? What should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (6 June 2006):
 Just remain friends with him for now and don't ask him out again anytime soon. Basically if he really wanted to date you or 'have a drink' then he would find the time in his busy schedule. Maybe he is not comfortable with his sexuality just yet or maybe he is just being friendly towards you and sees you as a mate/ work colleague. If he is older than you he maybe scared of a relationship because you are 17 and therefore legally underage. Who knows what is going on in his head? Whatever the situation, just sit back and just be friends for a while. Then in a couple of weeks time just ask him out again on a Sunday (football match? drink?), and if he knocks you back again then you will know for sure that he is not interested. But go carefully in what you say to him because if you guys have to work together afterwards then it might be a potentially embarrassing situation for you to have to see him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2006): Next time i would ask any Saturday when you see him if he fancies going for a drink after work.And see what happens after that but i stress dont push the fact you have a crush on him just let nature run its course and see if he shows any interest in you other than a friend.
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reader, Christie +, writes (5 June 2006):
Hello, well if you think there may be hope then continue talking to him, no matter how demanding a job is, people still need relationships. However there is always a chance that he may not be gay or interested.
Not what you want to here I kno, he may be straight and liking you as a mate, or he may just want to have let u down gently. Though from what you said he does seem to like you in some way.
I'd say continue tlking to him until you get a clearer picture of where he stands, and where u and him stand.
Hope this helped a little, take care.
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