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writes: My girlfriend dumped me two years back for absolutely no reason. I was struggling to come with terms of that heartbreak. But for the last two months, I have been dating her younger sister who is 4 years younger than me and I found her more courageous and down to earth than her sister. She knows the I am her sister's ex but she's fine with as she thinks it happened two years back. She didn't disclose it on my ex that she's seeing me but two weeks back she got to know about it and created fuss out of it. She called me up on phone, threating me that If couldn't get out of her younger sister's life, she will kill me and I answered back saying do whatever you wanna do. I love to see her raging in jealousy . But now I am little concerned does the threat can be real? should I move out with my girlfriend from this city? Because last night, while coming back from work, I felt someone chasing me at sub-way train station . Does girl can go to that extend? should I leave her sister for my life or we both should leave the city? I have to admit that I dated her sister for taking revenge on her but now I have seriously fallen in love with her and consider her my real life partner. Help from you guys on this would be valued here. Thanks!
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (11 August 2011):
 Dating is generally a search to find a mate.
Not a search for revenge.
What is the eventual outcome for you and your "real life partner"???
Well....
Sister will hate you.
Sister will ask her parents and other family members to hate you.
Sister will ask any mutual friends to hate you.
Sister will influence anyone to hate you.
And mostly -
Sister will hate her sister.
How about if you Marry???
Sister will do her best to ruin your Wedding.
Sister will become an Aunt who never sees her nieces and nephews.
Sister will criticize your marriage.
Sister will bad mouth you at every future family event.
If you love this girl at ALL, you will do her a favor and walk away after using her for revenge. Any kind of a future you have together is not pretty, and your not a "loving" partner if you wish to inflict all of the above possible scenarios on her.
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reader, Kyle007  +, writes (11 August 2011):
I dated a younger sister of an ex because I was attracted to her, not out of revenge. I got the older sister to agree to it, and even arrange it. I thought everything was cool.To make a long story short, it ended up a total disaster.You did this as a revenge thing and said you loved to see her raging in jealousy. Well, you got what you asked for and this is a result of malicious intentions on your part. You need to acknowledge that.Have you gone to the police?Seriously, if you are going to continue this relationship,. you are going to need a restraining order, a body guard, and maybe even have to carry a gun. There can be a better relationship for you with someone that is not based on revenge. Also, you have to look at the character of the younger sister for doing something like this to her older sister.Lastly, contemplate this: who would be coming to the wedding? Dude, you threw a whole family into chaos, sorry to tell you.
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