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writes:Hi everyone, I'm a 16-year-old girl and I'm having some issues. I have a lovely boyfriend, who is 6ft2 and absolutely gorgeous with an amazing body. Now I'm only 5ft2 and kinda chubby, which makes me feel really awful cause he's very concious about his body and looking good! I've never really liked my size but now I'm worried about him seeing my body without clothes. Normally I dress very carefully so I always 'play-down' my chubby parts (belly, legs) and wear push-up bras so my breasts look loads bigger than they are. But naked, my breasts are really small, my stomach is horrible and flabby and my legs are like tree trunks! What can I do? Should I try to lose weight? Thank you xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2007): Glad my answer helped...and all very, very true.
YOU just need to believe it.
Good luck, x
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reader, jackpot +, writes (3 December 2007):
jackpot is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwow :) i feel much better now, especially from the anonymous answer below! thankyou :D
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2007): Do you think that he is only with you for your personality??? The fact that you might carry a few extra pounds isn't concealed by your clothes so it isn't going to be a suprise to him. He is with you because he loves everything about you, yes, even the bits you are self conscious about! My wife constantly goes on about being slimmer as she is 'so fat' (She's not)...but to be honest, i love her with a 'bit of meat' on her. And in case you were wondering, i am 17 stone, toned and spend more time than i should in the gym. It doesn't make me look at my wife any differently. I love Everything about her, the only unattractive feature she has is her lack of self confidence.Be confident, love yourself...
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (2 December 2007):
 Hi Sweetie,
Don't worry, he chose You! Most guys really aren't that impressed by skinny, most guys like a little something to hang on to. But If you aren't comfortable enough for him to see you naked, maybe it's not quite time yet? You're still young, don't be in such a hurry. When the time is right, you'll know it and you won't be the least bit worried. I tried to tell my kids to wait until Uni. You are much better equipped emotionally to handle a sexual relationship, you know everything about contraception and you aren't always bumping into your ex in the hallways at school (which isn't pleasant after you've been naked together). Anyway, your decision, but I'm sure he loves you and will wait till you are ready. Play safe, use a condom always, best of luck with your decision! P.S. - Young girls are always the most critical about there OWN bodies. Trust me, when you are older, you will look back at your photos now and think - "Why was I such a harsh critic? I had a great body back then!". Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2007): Hi, I think you should lose weight to be healthier and because you would feel better about you, not to impress some guy....sounds to me like you just need to excercise more, kids today spend too many hours sitting on the computer and in front of the tele...
As far as letting your boyfriend seeing you naked goes, what are you thinking? It sounds to me like you are not at a place in your relationship to be doing that. If you were really bonded and in love and your friendship was solid you would not be asking about your body issues in my opinion because you would feel secure and safe in your relationship.
Personally, I think 16 is too young to be getting naked with a guy any way. There are many risks to having sex at a young age. Google Risk Factors for Cervical Cancer...for one,,not to mention the risk of pregnancy which would change your life forever. My recommendation to you is to slow the heck down....what are you in such a rush for? Remember your guy has hormones raging and very often boys and men can act "as if" they are in love with you just to get naked with you, and then they quickly lose interest. How would you feel if that happened? Also, if a guy really sees you as girlfriend material, he will be pleased that you refused sex and hold out for a long time, he may "act as if" this isn't so, but it is almost universally true about men, they want to get to know you better without the pressure of sex, that is if they truly care about you and like you....he will be happy just to be in your company....if he is pressuring you for sex, he is not interested in YOU.
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reader, bqagirl2692  +, writes (2 December 2007):
 I have been in this situation before and i was very nervous showing my boyfriend my body due to the fact i was very insecure about how i looked. Obviously he is with you because he has feelings for you and he saw past the way yoou look. Obviously he accepts and loves the way you look even though he has never seen you naked before. He cares for you sweetie and of course since itll be your first time you wil get a little nervous but this is a process we get passed once we are comfortable with eachother. You dont need to diet or lose weight. Im sure he loves you for who you are and he'll cherish that body of yours because he cares for you. Dont worry to much. Your beautiful in your own way and he see's that. Be confident that he loves you just the way you are.
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