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writes:I'm 15 and im pregnant My boyfriend is not the father of my baby, it is his brothers, his brother knows about it and he too thinks it might be his. Should I tell him the truth or pretend that it is his? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2009): you should always do your best to tell the truth, especially in difficult situations like this. it will ease your mind and bring an openness to the relationships you have. you should consider telling both of them, staying calm throughout your pregnancy, and have a paternity test once the child is born. good luck with your truth telling; it is difficult to do, takes a lot of inner-strength but is well worth it. congratulations with your pregnancy! you'll be in my prayers.
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reader, jENN891AU  +, writes (20 September 2009):
 Tell the truth.
You always feel bad about it and guilty if you dont.
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reader, Red Green 0289  +, writes (16 September 2009):
You need to come clean with them BOTH, and seriously consider allowing a mature couple to adopt the baby. You, on the other hand need to learn how not to get pregnant and how not to sleep with memebers of the same family.
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reader, ffogalilly +, writes (16 September 2009):
Are you 100% positive that its the bother's child?
If you're sure your boyfriend has a right to know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2009):
How would you feel if someone was planning to switch your baby when you were in the hospital after the birth? What if they believed it would be better this way? Would you mind?
Please abort this baby or give it up for adoption. You don't sound anywhere near ready to be handle the responsibility of being a parent.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2009): If your boyfriend doesn't know about your sexual relationship with his brother, he needs to. If you don't tell him, most likely the brother will. You need to tell the truth. Lies will get you nowhere.
After the baby is born, get a paternity test to determine who the father is.
I think you should prepare yourself to lose him unless he is a really understanding guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2009): Do the right thing and tell him the truth.. The truth always comes out, so do it before someone else does.
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reader, rcn +, writes (15 September 2009):
 You should never pretend. That's wrong period. Tell him that it may not be. Doing that keeps you honest, and releases the guilt that will build up more and more by keeping the secret.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2009): tell the truth, because it will come out in the end i can promise you.
im not about to lecture you on whats right or wrong as what is done is done, and also you will learn a lesson from this, but tell the truth now
goodluck
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reader, RobL +, writes (15 September 2009):
 How long do you suppose you could get away with pretending it's his baby when it's not? How long until you two have a row and that poor baby becomes a weapon to score points off one-another? There's a reason the age of consent in the UK is 16, frankly it should really be higher. You really do not seem like you're ready to deal with this at all, based on those two sentences alone.
I don't mean to be cruel when I say you're going to need all the help you can get, given that you have at least another year of school ahead of you, you've probably ruined your chances of going to college, since a baby isn't a part time job.
My advice, find out for sure whose it is, then come clean about the whole thing. Tell your parents, tell your boyfriend, his brother, their parents, and between you, you'll have to sort something out to look after this child.
Good luck.
~Rob
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reader, Accountable +, writes (15 September 2009):
 You should absolutely find out the truth and then tell him whats really going on.
You cant let him commit himself to a child that isnt his under false pretences that he is the biological father, and your child should have the right to know who their real father is.
In the future, use protection please.
Good luck. xx
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