I am obsessed with my colleague, do you think she will be receptive to my attempts to be her friend again?

A male age , *llenwhite writes:

I'm not really writing this to find a solution to a problem. I don't really think there is a solution. I just needed to express something. I'm a married male father of four and I would consider myself happily married. About five years ago, there was a new lady who came to work in our office. Now when I say she is attractive, I mean the first thing you would think of when you see her is how pretty she is. I couldn't even imagine a woman possibly being prettier than her. I managed to develop a friendship with her and we would have lunch together once in a while. The little time I spent with her I felt like I had been momentarily admitted into the gates of heaven. I'm 59 yrs old and consider myself a fairly handsome specimen of a man. She is 11 yrs younger than me. It's been five years now that we have been working together and she has burned a hole in my heart like I thought nothing ever could. Our relationship has cooled off a little bit in the last year and a half and I hardly ever get to speak with her anymore. I am completely, utterly, and totally obsessed with her. She was very nice to me on several occasions, stopping by my desk, stopping at the shredder to talk with me and so on. I pine for her ceaselessly. I am extremely depressed that I cannot have her. I am thankful for my wife's support. She does not know about her of course. Of all the women I have ever met, none has ever come close to having the effect that this girl has. Talk about the heart wanting what it wants! I want to talk with her again but I am so afraid that she will not want to have anything to do with me. If I treat her very well, my question to anyone reading this is, do you think she will be receptive to my attempts to be her friend again? I'm at the point now where nothing else matters. I can't be happy anymore with the things that used to make me happy. My mind is consumed with the thought of her very fair face. An angel has come into my life and there is nothing I can do about it.

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