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reader, cd206  +, writes (11 February 2007):
 I don't really think that committing suicide was totally to do with being in a dead marriage. Real suicidal feelings come from feeling you have no reason to live whereas you quite clearly still did (your child and a husband who may not be as loving as he once was but is still there) Possibly you were having some other problems that caused you to feel like this but you can't blame them solely on your marriage. To be honest nothing has changed for me from reading your followup. You're hanging onto a dream of feelings that once existed very strongly but it will never be the same however hard you try. Your child has to be the first priority now
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reader, secret +, writes (11 February 2007):
secret is verified as being by the original poster of the question thx to everyone for answered me. but me and him have been talking non stop and the feelings is mutual. i love him and he loves me. we parted because we were too young and our families didnt agree. but now i am 25 and he's 28. my marriage has been dead long time ago. i really dont think there is anything to salvage. i even tried to commit suicide when i was wit my husband and now even for the past few months i have been thinking of trying again without failing. but now i got in contact with my ex i wanr to be with him forever and i want to live. do you people really think that i should stay in this marriage?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2007): It sounds like when you met him again all the memories(plus feelings) have come back to you but forget him. After all it was eight years ago when you split up with him, you are now married with a child and he now only wants you as a friend. Why sabotage your marriage for him?
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reader, liz24  +, writes (8 February 2007):
Stay away from the your ex and work on your marriage instead. You are putting energy in the wrong place. My husband left me and my daughter for someone he felt attracted to and now he is miserable but has lost everything. He didn't think of what he was doing and now he is paying the consequences. Is that what you want for yourself? What kind of example will you be for your daughter? My daughter asks her father that everyday and she is only nine years old. Save your marriage, stay with your husband and focus on how you could be a better wife. Fall in love with your husband again, it will be worth it!
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reader, cd206 +, writes (7 February 2007):
I think deep down you know that to pursue this man from your past would be wrong. You have a child now. Their happiness has to be your priority without question.
CD
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2007): Stay away from this man. Do you really want to throw away your marriage and all that goes with it? There will from time to time be men who you are attracted to during your marriage. The wisest advice is just stay away from temptation, do not meet him again 'just as friends'. How would you feel if your husband was doing this?
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reader, here_2_help +, writes (7 February 2007):
 You love your child and i am sure you must love your husband every one likes to see there ex's and i am sure he will have seemed like a blast from the past but think of what your be doing to you child and husband. Is it a real love or is it just lust? your husband has stuck by you and is it worth it? hope i have helped any way at all
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