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writes:i am in love with my maths teacher, he was my form tutor when i was year 7 and im 13 and in year 9 now. he knows how i feel cuz one of my mates told him (which i hav forgiven her for now). he is so gorgeous and he seems to treat me more caringly than he does anyone else, he is married and whats worse is that his wife works at the same school and she is my english teacher and she makes me feel guilty because although she doesnt know that i love her husband she is incredibly nice to me all the time!!!!! she also has a crush on robert pattinson so i always tease her about it and one time she was on duty at breaktime and me and one of my mates asked her how much she likes robert pattinson and she said 'oh more than u could ever imagine' so we asked her who she liked more and she said 'defineltely robert pattinson, my husband is nowhere near as gorgeous'. and from that moment i wanted to tell the teacher i fancy what his wife had said but i knew she would be angry with me and i knew it would mean telling her that i loved her husband!!!!! i am so confused and dont know what to do i never stop thinking bout him and my mates get sick of me talking bout him! but i love him so much every night i dream bout him a few weeks ago i even dreamt bout marrying him!i dont dare to tell my mum and dad because they will just say im being ridiculous! and i know a lot of answers to this question will say to forget and give up but i cant he is the one, i just know it! please give me advice that isnt just 'oh give up' and stuff like that? thank u xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionrecently i found out the age gap between me and my maths teacher, he is 35 and im now 14 so there is 21 years between us, which i dont see much problem with because there is 17 years between my aunty and uncle, so 4 more isnt much is it?
anyway, his wife (my best friend) has been really supportive of me because i admitted to her that i think i am in love with him, and she is so understanding, she makes everything feel better, even though she is his wife.
today at breaktime i said to him :
'Sir, C******** said you're ugly, but thats alrgiht because i told her that you are gorgeous'
he smiled at me and then i said to him : 'you aren't going to listen to me anymore are you?'
he didnt answer but carried on smiling :)
after school i said to him : 'sir, you aren't going to ignore me after what i said at breaktime are you?'
he said, smiling, 'no, of course not, i like what you said to me' then he winked at me and walked off, i was so happy, and i think he may have a very small amount of feelings for me, but im not sure, but i know i can never be with him, and i wouldnt want my english teacher to get her heart broken, because as i have already said, she is my best friend :D
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi again, when i said before that the wife of the teacher i love was like a second mum to me, ive changed my mind now, i still like her though, but now she is my best friend (and i am her best friend too), i still fancy her husband though, and recently they got stuck in lanzarote because of the stupid volcanic ash cloud, and it was then that i realised how much his wife meant to me, as soon as she was back i gave her a hug and told her how much i had missed her, she said she missed me too, and now we are best friends forever! :) on my birthday next week, we are going to spend lunchtime together (my other friends will be there too) and i am taking a chocolate cake, but i dont know what i want for my birthday so my present will be a suprise, she really is the best friend ive ever had :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you to everyone who provided answers for me.
recently, one of my friends asked the wife of the teacher i love what she would do if a student fancied her husband and she said she would laugh! so the next day me and one of my friends went up to her classroom and we told her that i fancied her husband and she was so nice about it and she didnt mind at all, i feel that i can go and talk to her about it, and its strange beacause since i told her, she has become like a second mum to me, and i feel that i can talk to her about me fancying her husband but i feel nervous about talking to him about it. and again thank you for all your answers, none of them were really what i wanted to hear but thank you anyway. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2010): i know how youu feel...its never good to fancy your teacher but its like hormonal. try and find someone else to crush on then you will gradually drift away from your teacher..if it helps you should tell your teacher how you feel and ask him not to treat you special...go with a friend for support...if you are always thinking about him and its hard to give it up,try and discorage yourself kinda gradually stop, i know it sounds sad but it helps...i know it all sounds lame but i had the same problem myself, dont worry it will be ok and our teacher will still like youu, hope i helped xxx
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reader, lucy.whittaker +, writes (3 January 2010):
 Much as you might like not to give up on it, you really should. The whole thing with 'teasing' your english teacher is extremely childish and you and your friends should be ashamed of doing it, you should all grow up and respect her as your senior. You may think he is 'the one' but in a few years time you will look back at this crush and laugh that you were being so silly. However hard it is, everyone is going to say the same thing. Unless he is a paedophile then he's not going to be interested in you in the slightest. I used to fancy my Geography teacher, he was gorgeous, but he was married and I soon gave up on it once I realised that guys my own age were far more interesting. He has NO romantic interest in you whatsoever, and even if he did then he'd be putting his job, marriage and entire life in jepoardy. If you really, honestly believe that for him, getting together with a 13 year old little girl is worth all of that, then you are really quite deluded. Sorry sweetheart, but chase some boys your own age.
Lucy xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2010): omg i know how you feel..im in love with my maths teacher aswell..i know it would have been hard to keep your feelings locked inside..but you got to realise that he has a wife and maybe children as well..and you dont want him to lose his job or his wife becos of your crush..because believe me..a teacher in our school was recently arrested because of a student-teacher relationship..so just think about what your doing..
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reader, chorn95 +, writes (3 January 2010):
Firstly im fourteen too, so if anyones going to give you a straight foward awnser its me. Your inlove with your maths teacher? I can see how its important to you, but honestly, even if you do tell his wife she wont take you seriously or get jealous. The best thing to do is give up. I know its not what you want to hear but thats the only thing you can do. If you dare make a move on him it could make things very awkward for both of you. You may be "inlove" with him, but he isn't with you.
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reader, Miss Karma Louise +, writes (3 January 2010):
first of all his wife isnt a profesional teacher especially if shes talking like that to her pupils..its wrong and she could get into an awfull lot of trouble for it.
i hate to tell you this but you need to get real about this honey,hes a TEACHER you are a CHILD he has a WIFE and i bet you he's happy with her..or else he wouldnt be married to her..agree?
think of how many pupils this man has??over a 100.yes?
how many of these girl pupils fancy him? lots proberly.
your not the only one.
when you say he treats you better its proberly all in your head..trust me. either that or he's a sick peodophile and needs to be reported.
ypu must understand my darling that you are a child and your hormones are racing like thunder and will be for a while..i hate to say you must forget about this.
its a first crush all us girls go through it..speak to your mum about crushes and realtionships ask her whats right and wrong ask her how she got over her crushes make it a girlie night in..dont mention you fancy the maths man though or she'll proberly go crazy.
good luck and be carefull,x
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (3 January 2010):
It can't happen. First of all, it's illegal because you're under 16 and that would be child abuse. Secondly, it's illegal because you are a student. And thirdly he's married. He is not the one, because the One will be available. Your teacher isn't the one. He's a crush. His wife does love him, so she won't be leaving. She just has a crush on Robert Pattinson like every other woman. I had a crush on a teacher once, guess what, nothing happened and I'm now with a far better person. You have to let this crush go.
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