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writes:I am going to court for a rape assualt on me and i am really scared i need some advice because i feel like i want to run away or take an overdose becuase i would rather do this and wake up in hospital than going to court. i need advice n how to cope plz Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2007): It is completly normal to be afraid because rape is a very traumatizing event and should be taken very seriously. So my advice is to not be afraid and fight these feeling of fright because it is all going to be better after this person is punished.
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reader, mum2be +, writes (22 February 2007):
I am so glad to hear that someone has finally had the courage to speak up! If you think of what you have been through, court should be a lot easier. I know how daunting the experience can be, as i went through with a court case a few months back, and i can tell you that it would be harder thinking that you could have put a stop to this man's terror reign, and didn't, than actually going through with it.
As the other comments sugest you can, like i did, give your evidence behind a screen, via video link etc.
I hope you keep up the good work, and i know it is hard, but you are doing the right thing and it will help with your closure at the end of it.
all the best
xxx
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reader, Psyche  +, writes (22 February 2007):
Oh sweetie, you are doing the right thing. I was raped too when I was 17 and the people I told made me feel awful. I never reported it.
I ended up seeking therapy when I was older and it helped so much. I recommend it for you. It is about reclaiming your esteem and security.
I am so sorry you had to go through this. It will get easier.
Much love
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reader, AskEve +, writes (22 February 2007):
 Speak to your parents about how you feel, let them know you are terrified and you don't want to appear in court. There are leaflets you can have a look at that let you know that you don't have to appear in person in the actual courtroom. You are still very young and they won't put you through this so don't worry about that. Let your mum know you are terrified and she will make arrangements for you to give your evidence privately so you don't have to see anyone in the court room.
You'll be absolutely fine, you are very strong and very courageous. Your evidence will make sure this man never ever gets the chance to hurt anyone else ever again so well done for being so brave about it all. Just remember, you're with people who can protect you now so really... try not to worry.
Eve
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reader, dollparts  +, writes (22 February 2007):
 Hun!
my gawd I'm really sorry to hear that!
yeah I'm sure like the others who have said it that you could get it done on video tape or something
but just keep thinking your helping put this person away
if you want message me
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reader, kenny +, writes (21 February 2007):
 Of course you are not ready, you are only at the least 13 years old.
Like CD stipulates, you can give evidence via a vidio link, this way you don't have to come into contact with anyone.
Confide in your parents, friends, no doubt they are all there to help guide you through this difficult time.
Good luck x
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reader, cd206 +, writes (21 February 2007):
 Talk to whoever is representing you. Because you're a minor you can almost certainly give your evidence via a video link but only your lawyer can sort that out for you. It will make it much easier for you if you can do this. In the meantime get some counselling if you're not already.
CD
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