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writes:Me and My Boyfriend Love Each other Hes 17 And Im 14 Nearly 15. I know people will say that we cant love at this age but your wrong. I Love Him And He Loves Me. But Yesterday He Told Me He Is Moving To Cornwall To Live With His Mum Insted Of His Dad In The Summer. what Can i Do I Love Him So Much I Dont Wanna Loose Him And He Loves Me What Can i Do? Please Help me Iv Never Been In This Situation Before Reply to this Question
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reader, LostHeart +, writes (25 February 2007):
LostHeart is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank You Sadi And Your Husband Youv Helped Me Alot Helped Me See It In A Different Light, Ill speak to Him Hes Alredy Asked If Id Mve With Him But I Cant If Isnt Practical I Have My Gcses Coming Up Soon I Said Maybe Once My Gcses Are Over With And Iv Left School Ill think about Moving With Him To Cornwall Its such A Big Discion To Make Im Only 14 Nearly 15 Lol But I Do Love Him And I Would Do Anything to Be With Him but Right now At This Moment It Isnt A Right Time Can You Understand??
I Will Talk To Him Tho Thank You x
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reader, Sadi +, writes (25 February 2007):
 Hi. Its Sadi again, and I just got your reply.. Wow, I know how much you DO love him. Okay, Girl, I know You said that you didnt want to tell him, but if you do love him as much as it sounds like, girl, You need to tell him how you feel.. I know you dont want him to feel bad, but, at least he would know how you would feel. I asked my husband to put us in your possitions, and I asked him what he would want me to do if he was leaving, and I didnt want him to know that I did NOT want him to go... He said this exactly,.. word 4 word.. " Wow, you need to tell her that being in-love means you're open with your relationship.. If hes leaving, and you dont want him to.. and there is nothing you could say that would change the fact he is leaving... you need to be open with him... cause that way he at least knows... What if you didnt tell him, and this whole time hes thinking you dont care.??? So, definitly tell him.. Dont try to convince him not to go, but atleast let him in on how you feel... " Think about this... Love is mainly about feelings... ( when you love, you feel ) and if you feel one way, and your not sharing... dont you think you have a secoret? And being in love, there are NO secorets... So, I know that you love him.. And i understand that you dont want to make it worse by telling him... BUT... what if you were making it worse by not telling him? Maybe he needs to know in his heart how you feel...?... I hope this helps.. Im sorry your heart is aching....
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reader, LostHeart +, writes (23 February 2007):
LostHeart is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Sadi, But Hes The Only Boy That Makes Me Feel Special Hes Always Telling me how beautiful i am and how smart [even tho im not lol] i get butterflys whenever im around him and i cant think properly when im around him but when im not with him all i can think bout is him and how i wanna be with him Hed never do anything to hurt me but he is hurting me by mooving away and i no im being selfish and thats why i havnt told him about what im feeling because id hate to keep him from doing what he wants just because i love him Its Gonna hurt me so much doing this but i cant Hold him back can i? It will only make him resent me and i dont want that so the only answer that seems to make sence is let him go and try and be strong? :[ I Dnt think ill be able to be strong enuf to let him go without Crying ...And if i cry i will make him feel guilty cos thats the type of person he is a caring and kind person that wouldnt hurt or upset me for the world..
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reader, Sadi +, writes (22 February 2007):
In this type of situation, it is going to be hard on you... And, It will also help you grow up....
It is one of the hardest thing to let someone go.... But it's going to happen wether you like it or not,.
Take lots of pictures before he goes, so that way, you have alot of memories,,, Or have him give you somthing that is special to him, and you do the same...
I know you're probably thinking of the whole long distance relationship... but that would be harder then letting him go. And when you do let him go, your heart will heal.. and make you stronger person.. Im sorry someone as young as you will have to experience a heart ach, but your heart will mend....
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reader, LostHeart +, writes (22 February 2007):
LostHeart is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you For Your Advice And we Are In Manchester Ill Have a Talk With Him And See How He Feels x Thank You
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2007): Okay, first he has told you he is moving to Cornwall for the summer. Its an established fact, and nothing you can do about that.
You can send letters or email, talk on the phone or text, sometimes and possibly you will be invited to go see him some weekends.
BUT you ARE only 14 and that is very young to be this involved with any boy, let alone traveling to Cornwall by yourself! Maybe you should just enjoy him as a penpal for now......besides, summer is a long way away, anything might happen between now and the summer months!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2007): I'm not sure what part of England you're from, but how far away from you is Cornwall?
Regardless, if you want to make it work you can try. I know it's not what you want to hear, but at 14 nearly 15, long distance relationships (LDR) are very tough. It's hard for adults as well. These types of relationships require special factors.
If you're interested in pursuing an LDR, then I suggest talking to him & seeing if he's on the same page as you. If so, then you can try oto make it work. E-mail, regular letters, texts, phone calls, Skype, videos, and scheduled visits do wonders for LDRs.
All hope is not lost.
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