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writes: My boyfriend of nine months finished the relationship 4 months ago but I am finding it very difficult to get over this. I still find myself crying a lot and unable to sleep at night. At the beginning of the break-up we did communicate by text but thimgs became nasty on both sides with a lot of mutual mud slinging, so no contact has been made for a while.He asked me to stop contacting him so I have respected that. I feel so lonely and I miss him. I have apologised for my side in the nastiness explaining I acted like that through hurt. If we see each other in the street we say hello, but that is as far as it goes. He was my soulmate and my life feels so empty without him and I miss him so much. I try to keep busy, go out with friends etc but I am finding he is always on my mind.It took us a long while to get together because he has trust issues due to being cheated on in the past. Can anyone see a way forward? x
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thankyou to everyone who responded to my problem. It means a lot to me that there are people out there who care enough to take time out to help otheres in need-bless you. I was feeling like I should have got over my ex by now and was trying to hide my feelings from friends/family and pretend I was fine when really I wasn't. I am reassured that what I am feeling is completely normal. My next course of action is prompted by the advice you guys gave me which is to concentrate on myself and try to move on with life. I will let you all know of any developments and how I get on. Many thanks once again. Peace and love to you all xx
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reader, ebi510  +, writes (6 February 2008):
 Breaking up with someone you care about is a very hard thing. It doesn't go away over night. Allow yourself to feel that. Cry in your pillow, take walks, feel your pain.. allow yourself the time you need to remember and learn from what ever it was your supposed to learn from that experience. Then you must let it go. One day, you may meet again and it will be right. You may never meet again and the experiences you dealt with make you stronger and wiser and allow for a new relationship to benifit from it. But don't close yourself off. And don't waste your time and trying to get something back that is not meant to be.
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reader, anon_e_mouse +, writes (6 February 2008):
 Hi, I've been there myself and found treating myself a very effective way to dealing with a break-up. My EX and I were together for over a year and it took me a few months to get over it... However, I think it would've taken longer had I not done this.
Take a look at my article. You might find it helpful:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-to-get-over-your-ex.html
Let me know what you think nad best of luck :)
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reader, OnlyMe101 +, writes (6 February 2008):
Well I can only say that you have to move on becuase it sounds as though he has. I'm in the same state as you right now fighting to hold onto mine!
Next time you se him, head up, smile, be ultra confident. Always look good. He will soon be come suspicious and wonder whats with the new you!
Whilst he might not come back -the new you might actually make you feel confident.
Men eh!
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