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writes:Hello, I am in a weird situation here. I work as a nurse aide and my supervisor and I have been seeing each other for two weeks now. He is so sweet to me. He always tells me how pretty I am and brings me flowers. When we are at work we keep it professional and we are good about not flirting and stuff at work. It's really odd dating your supervisor I must say. Anyways, we haven't told anybody at work as to not start conflict. All though we are the talk of weather he and I are actually dating because he picks me up for work and takes me home but he has don. I had no car at the time. Anyways my question is, is it a good idea to date your supervisor as long as it kept on the low down not tell coworkers? They might start saying I get special treatment or of the sort. That's what I'm worried about. Or should I maybe look into a new job so we aren't working together? I don't want to dump the greatest guy I've ever had because of work or work conflict please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2011): Im in the same situation as you. My girlfriend and i keep our work lives and home life apart. We are professional where we need to be and no one knows. Plus a relationship like this can have its perks. If you like your job as it is. Just keep going you Will both be fine.
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reader, Godchild +, writes (8 April 2011):
I'm dating a co worker its sometimes hard tho be.discrete. If the relationship is serious someone should leave. This can be very dangerous as far as you guys job its concern. Gossip in e workplace is no fun trust me.
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reader, fishdish +, writes (8 April 2011):
 I am under the impression that nurses are easily transferrable to other hospitals, hospitals are always shortstaffed. If this is the case for nurse's aides, I would look into transferring because of the tensions it could bring up.
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reader, macdubh712 +, writes (8 April 2011):
I'd say you should probably move. Some say that you should not get your money and your honey from the same place. I dated someone at work about 10 years ago and we were the talk of the place and everyone was up in our business. I guess it didn't help that I was 28 years younger than her. But anyways, I think that it is not worth staying there. It sounds like you two have a good "thang" but just on the chance that something did happen between you two it would be awkward at work. Also, if he is your supervisor it might become hard for him later on to exercise that "supervisor/subordinate space" when necessary not to mention that if something did happen between you two it might cause him to use it too much. Complicated, I know. But with another job? No worries.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (8 April 2011):
 Usually it's best to not date your supervisor. It can be difficult to keep those relationships separate, and what if he needed to repremand you? Would you be able to handle that professionally? Would he?
Maybe you could transfer to a different department. I'm not sure how things work at your hospital, but I'm sure there are other areas you could work in so the transition wouldn't be too drastic.
Also, be sure to check the rules on dating in the workplace. It is against the rules in many places, so you want to be careful you both aren't risking your careers here.
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