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writes: Hi, I'm a guy but I'm not sure about things anymore. I fancy this girl in my class (I have for about a year) but she barely knows I exist. I do like her but that's not the only problem...I think I'm bi. I know there's nothing wrong with that its just I fancy men too and can't stop thinking about it. I'm 13 and really mixed up. please can I have advice!!!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2007): well i think i'm bi 2. jus go with ur instincts and accept who you are. you don't have 2 tell anyone jus yet.but you will have 2, especially when your in a relationship. And plus i think 2 guys that luv each other is hot. hope u find the answer 2 your problem. w/b
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reader, aim  +, writes (5 October 2007):
 Hi.
Hmmm. I understand what you're going through since i am 17 male and bi as well. I just realized i was bi around a year ago... and i must say it was hard. Well, i am not sure if we have the same situation but i believe you'd get something out of my story.
When i was your age... and even younger... i was afraid to actually classify myself to being gay or being bi since somehow 'gay' was only defined as being a crossdresser and 'bi' was the same thing as gay here. So i was all confused and tried rationalizing how i was feeling and who/what i really am. And now that i am older and more mature, i have formed and understood who i am. but that doesnt mean i have come out yet. haha! So what i am tryin to tell you is... even though this is just 'a phase' it'll be crucial for you to be able to accept and understand who you really are.
~i have actually put up a post here last september asking people if i was in fact gay or bisexual, go check it out (and post too!ü) maybe you'd get something from it. :)) keep in touch dude
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reader, Kat18  +, writes (4 October 2007):
 This happpens to most people i went through the same thing at 14 and its often just a phase dnt worry about it.
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reader, Emma99  +, writes (4 October 2007):
Hi,
First things first: it's totally okay to be "bi" -- it's not the gender of the person you desire that matters, it's how you treat them -- and how you treat yourself. Where do you live? Try to see if there's a hotline around that would allow you to chat about things with people who understand the complexities of gay, bi, and straight stuff. As for getting the girl to notice you, that's a tough one to answer without a context. Schools can be cruel places for making people invisible. Have you tried all the cliches: inviting her to a study group? movie with friends? sending her a joke? getting a friend to intercede for you? I know... it all sounds pathetic....but you'll figure it out..
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