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writes:ok so me and my girl have talked about sex. i'm ready she's not. i'm happy with that. she's happy with that. right? so then, we're happily making out when i feel i'm starting to lose control. i'm starting to go further automatically. so we stop and she says everythig's ok. we try again later that night and it come out of nowhere and i basically started raping her. it didn't get very far but i lost control. what if it happens again? what if its worse. what if it gets in the way of our hooking up time? how do i stop myself? Reply to this Question
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (9 October 2010):
 How do you almost rape someone? It seems to be that you let your actions and urges get out of control. You do need to seek therapy and tell your girlfriend you guys are taking a break so you don't end up doing something that could get you arrested. She will understand. Protect her and seek help that you need.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2010): Your libido is probably higher than hers.
But just chill or she'll leave you. This isn't a turn on for women, 'especially' if they really don't want it.
Rape is a serious offence against the law and humanity. If you are speaking honestly and not just emphasising your story and your lust for her by using the word rape; then you need professional help my friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2010): Hmm, insufficient information here. Did she get caught up in the moment and want to carry on? You said she told you it was OK; what exactly was ok, the fact that you tried it or that you could have carried on?
Try to talk it through with her, communication here is vital, and let us know the outcome, please.
Bart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2010): Okay so your ready for it an shes not that's fine.
Ask her how she wants you to express your love for her if shes not up for sex what wrong with just making out. Find diffrent ways, make it fun and this will make her feel more comfortable when she is actually ready for sex. But just don't go too quickly your not raping her because you could control yourself and stop you need to encourage her and don't worry she will come in her own time.
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reader, serenity80  +, writes (7 October 2010):
Are you saying you think you might force her to have sex, even if she tells you no?
Just trying to establish that you really know what rape means. It's not a word you can use lightly. If you genuinely think you are going to end up raping your girlfriend, well I think you need more than someone on the Internet to tell you that you need professional help.
If though you are saying you have a very high sex drive and can't think of anything more than having sex and are finding it difficult because your girlfriend doesn't want to.. Well... a lot of teenage boys feel the same way. Maybe she is not the girl for you and you need to find someone who is ready and already sexually active. Leave this girl alone so she can become sexually ready in her own time.. when she is a bit older.
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reader, FluffyPie +, writes (7 October 2010):
 If you want to help it, let her go, so you can avoid any contact with her. There are plenty of other girls who are keen to see Mr. snake from your pants.
This girl will probably lose her trust in men, because she thinks they will only use her for sex.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (7 October 2010):
End the relationship now, seek counselling.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (7 October 2010):
 Get away from her immediately. Seek professional help. You can talk to her over the phone or over the internet but until you are sure that this has been dealt with, it is best you stay away from her for now.
I hope that helps.
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