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writes: im 19 and a virgin, i let my boyfriend finger me (i was a little surprised at myself) but im not sure if im ready to go "further" is it to late to tell him????? and what will he think of me?help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2011): No dont feel bad. There is nothing wrong with not going all the way, if you are not ready then dont do it because your cherry means a lot to you and when he pops it you will not get it back . So tell him that you dont want to go all the way and you don't feel good about what he did . There is nothing wrong with you masterbateing it is safe to do
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reader, ellie6 +, writes (24 November 2006):
 No it's definitely not too late.
Let him know how you feel, he probably won't be too bothered, he'll have more respect for you for wanting to wait until you are ready instead of rushing into things.
After all, it's completely your decision and nobody should pressure you into sex, it can be very a special and romantic thing if you let it be, rather than a quick, painful fumble with someone you don't like.
If you regret letting him finger you and you don't want a repeat experience until your completely ready then tell him, he'll be hurt if you don't confide in him and then when you won't let him do it again, he'll be confused and will think he did something wrong. It's much easier to be honest and open with him, after all, thats what a relationships about.
Good luck.
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reader, lovinghimnow +, writes (22 November 2006):
No you should definatly tell him that you dont want to go further and also tell him your a virgin if he doesnt know already because it is a very big step
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reader, mcbirdie  +, writes (22 November 2006):
 Of course it's not too late to tell him! It is never too late to stop things, when you realize that you are not ready. Simply explain to him that you got a bit carried away, but you want to slow things back down a bit. I am sure that he will understand and respect your decision, if he cares about you.
I wish you the best of luck.
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reader, Tine +, writes (22 November 2006):
 wel hunny if your not sure then you should let him know that you are not happy yet to go any further and if he is a decent bloke then he should understand. Your virginity is something worth holding onto (no matter what anyone says) so keep the hold of it until you truly know that you are ready. There is no harm in doing other things such as fingering etc etc if you are comfortable with it. When you tel your boyfriend he will be understand and thankful to you for telling him the truth instead of keeping it inside.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2006): For one... If you don't want to go further you will never have to because it's really never too late to say no hun ... and really if a man ever thinks bad of you because of the fact that you aren't ready then he is not worth your time or effort. So do say no and see his reaction and depending on that you will know if you should still be with him
good luck and update us x LeilaChick
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2006): then dont go farther if u dont want to. sounds like u have a lot of respect for urself and if he wants to go further and u tell him know and leaves u because of it then it wasnt worth it.
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