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writes: Hey! im 15 and my partner is 33. we met 2 years ago and he told me that he is in love with me.i love him as well.and dont say i dont know what love is,because i do!! Last May,my mum and dad found out their was something going on between me and him and dad said that if we carry on seeing each other,he could get in serious trouble with the law. We have not had sex and he says he wont have sex with me until im 16 and know that im completely ready. He respects me so much. We have kissed a few times but can he get in trouble with the police??
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2007): I understand where you are coming from but i guess this is because I am one year older than you... yes im 16 and talking to a 33 year old man.I im not writing this to tell you your worng even though in the eyes of the state it is wrong and the bystanders and family members around us just KNOW its worng, but I bet you at least most of theses fire men, teachers, parents, grand parents, judjes, and even police men have all gone through this "stage" as they refer to it.. I woud really lie to talk to you on Aim if you have it, because as for me i have no one to talk about it with and all thins can lead to stress and beleive me all stress does is bring PIMPLES lol if you wolud like you can email me on this site. I am estatic to hear from you ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2007): well i know a friend who was 13 and going out with a 19yo, they did everything and they still togother today and now married, if she was 15 he was 21 that isnt a big age difference and the law should go for people who is like 50 going out with 16yo!!!! and people shoudnt complain much with 7yrs age gaps compare to 35years age gap!!! i dont know what the hell going on these days.......
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reader, Bailey J  +, writes (26 March 2007):
 Girl, he is way to old for you. Yes he can get into trouble weather you are having sex or not. The reason for this…. You were 13 when you started a relationship and he was 31, that’s 13 year age difference.
Even though you are in love and you feel you’re grown up… your not. You 15 and you need to wonder why a 33 year old man is dating a 15 year old girl. Its not right. He’s not right. If he truly care for you he would stop contact with you until you were over 16!! Let you live life as a young girl before getting into a grown relationship.
If you look on TV, news and other things you will learn that this kind of man is not normal. Honest I don’t mean to bring you down, I’m just being truthful.
Take Care
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reader, lildude123 +, writes (26 March 2007):
Im sorry to have to say this to you but you should not be doing this. THE MAN IS 33 YEARS OLD. He is old enough to be your father. think about it when you are 21 he is going to be nearly 40. If i were you i would leave this man and find a boy my own age. Men that old who go out with 15 year old girls in my eyes can only be seen as a pervert.
Im sorry to tell you that but it is true.
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reader, home_land  +, writes (26 March 2007):
 hello
yes i think so becouse you are a child
and really look after your self .
good luck
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (26 March 2007):
 You bet your bootie he can get in trouble. This whole cockeyed relationship started when you were only 13 and he was 31! I'd be wondering what the heck is wrong with him if I were you. I'd also be worried that he'll be dumping you pretty soon so he can start looking for a younger girl to molest. I know this isn't what you want to hear but the guy's not quite right in the head and you should listen to your Dad on this one.
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reader, Midge +, writes (26 March 2007):
 This could be a difficult one because the legal concenting age for sex is 16, and all you need is one person to say that you have been having a sexual relationship and he could get into serious trouble.
Your dad is only looking out for your best interests because most older men (not all) would love the opportunity to go out with a young girl like yourself because they can then brag to their friends about how wonderful they are, they can get a young thing like you.
Be careful! If he loves you as much as he says he does and you love him too, then perhaps the best thing for you to do is take a break and when you are 16 and he cant get himself into trouble, then perhaps look and see if there is still a future for you both.
Its probably not what you want to hear, but you need to protect the both of you!
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reader, TakeItOrLeaveIt  +, writes (26 March 2007):
 Ok this guy is double your age!!! Thats really bad. I dont know how the law works but I dont think its right! If you are a virgin.. Do you want to lose something so special like your virginity (when you're 16) to a grown man who'll be 34 years old!!! 18 years older! Think of this... When you have your 21st birthday, your boyfriend is gonna be like almost 40!!!!!! NOT soo cool! He could be your father. Come on girl, what are his intentions?! And ask yourself.. Why cant this guy find someone his own age?? Your dad is right hey! Enjoy high school and have fun with your friends, u'll meet a nice 16 year old guy who is on the same level as you. Tell this guy to get lost seriously!
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