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writes: Hello, My husband lost his erection about a year ago. We can't make love, because he can't hold it.Do you know how to find out what is causing this?I would like to hear as much opinion as possible even if it's just one word.How do you find out, if its physical, or emotional?And if it is emotional, what can cause it, and what can be done about it?Thanks .
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reader, eddie34  +, writes (12 June 2009):
 Wow I can really weigh in on this question. I am not in my twenties anymore and can tell you from experience it is very hard for older guys to maintain an erection. Yes, the first thing you need to do is see a doctor and he can preform a few medical tests on him to see if he has poor circulation. Depending on what he finds he might prescribe or give him some Viagra samples, (this is what happened in my case). unfortunately Viagra did not work for me so I did not know what to do. Sometimes meds do not work for guys and all they need is a change in their diet. Is he overweight or not eating properly? This is actually a very good article I read a few days ago you might want to read, watermelons and Pomegranate are known to be natuaral libido boosters (it could be all he needs):http://www.edguider.com/edblog/2009/06/04/top-3-methods-of-improving-erections-naturally-without-viagra/If all else fails, I would do some research on the Boston Medical Group, it is a special clinic for men only and they offer unique treatments for guys with severe Erectile dysfunction. I went there and got treatment for 6 months, very effective but expensive. Hope that helps, send me a message if you have specific questions, I have been through this and am still treating it.Good Luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2009): Get to a doctor to evaluate blood pressure, diabetes, and pituitary function causing low serum testosterone.
There is a little know med that works in the brain called Uprima which stimulates male libido. It does not work in women.
If the doctor finds nothing apparent, try the ED meds. If that fails, the medication of last resort is alprostadil.
Alprostadil is injected into the base of the penis with a tiny needle and an excellent erection rapidly results. The med is expensive and there is a medical limit on the uses per week.
If these don't solve the problem, then you start looking at the ultra-rare causes like cancers, etc.
Most likely, if he is fit, then it is likely psychological or low or no pituitary function.
Good luck.
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reader, TheNerd +, writes (12 June 2009):
Please tell me you've been to a doctor. If not, get off this website and go!
Other than that, have you tried asking him what would turn him on the most? Maybe he has a secret fetish he's afraid to tell you, because he thinks you would reject it. Let him know just how far you'd be willing to go for him.
Other than that, remember that it's possible to enjoy sexual times together without an erection. Stop stressing about whether he has it up or not, and focus on making him feel good all over. There's no need to put your relationship on hold while you search for your answers.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (12 June 2009):
 As we men age, it becomes more difficult to sustain an erection. But I don't think age itself is the reason.
For example, diabetes makes it more difficult to sustain an erection. If I understood the conference correctly, it is so because diabetes causes some circulatory problems, but also because it reduces the sensitivity of the penis. So, while the man might be aroused, physically he will find it difficult to sustain the erection. It does not matter if you're young or old.
Sometimes the physiology of the penis is affected. To verify whether the physiology is intact, doctors ask the patient to check whether he has the nocturnal erections we get when we are asleep, as part of our natural cycles. If the patient does have those erections, then the problem is psychological. I understand that some doctors prepare, or used to prepare, small paper rings to put around the penis. If the paper ring was torn in the morning, then the man had had an erection. I'm not sure this is a foolproof method, however.
Sometimes impotence happens because sex becomes routine. Or because there are problems, not necessarily in the marriage.
A doctor could help him as we can't. Maybe he should see one. He could help him better with psychological impotence.
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reader, Legioness  +, writes (12 June 2009):
 It really could be about a zillion things, the best thing that you could do is have him get the once over at the doctors. The doctor should be able to find out what's going on down there, and if not, then at least you can rule out physical problems, and then you could focus on finding any emotional problems, the doctor should be able to advise you on this also. Good luck :)
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