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writes:My boyfriend have had sex before but he always wants to wear a condom when I give him head. I like doing it but even the flavored condoms taste sooo weird to me. I wish he would just take it off and relax! We've both been tested for STDs and we're both cool. Why is he acting this way? He's reccently said that he'd like me to give him head without a condom and that I make him feel so incredible. I'm happy but we haven't yet. A side of me thinks that maybe I was too pushy. I was taken a back when he suggested we get tested because he wants to be safe. It hurt me, I haven't been with a lot of guys. Am I being unreasonable? Isn't he being a little over the top? None of my girlfriends use condoms when they give their bf head.
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (15 June 2008):
 Your boyfriend is clearly concerned for both of your health. This is actually kind of sweet - don't get offended that he wanted to "play it safe", have you both get checked and use condoms. He does this for both of you and your safety. If he knows that you both are 100% cool, he can relax and just enjoy himself. Don't push him, but just talk to him and say, "listen. The doctors say that we're both clean and okay to play, so I want you to relax. Let me know if you start to freak out, but I'm going to give you the best time of your life tonight."
Then proceed to take off those pants and show him what he's been missing.
Enjoy, sweetness! I don't think he's trying to hurt you, just trying to be safe.
xx India
P.S. Let your girlfriends know that they can still get STI's from giving head with no condom. Oral herpes? Yeah, have fun with that. That's reeeaalll attractive.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2008): Both of you getting tested was the smart thing to do. Be happy that you did it. It is difficult to guess why he still wants to use a condom. Have you ever given him a reason to think that you might have something going on with someone else? Other than that, perhaps he doesn't want to have to stop if he is ready to finish and he is afraid to do it in your mouth because he is afraid of repulsing you.
You really need to talk to him about this. Communication about everything is very important in any relationship.
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reader, Twirly  +, writes (15 June 2008):
 Im puzzled as to why he still has a problem if you have both been tested and are in an exclusive relationship.
I think you need to try to talk to him.
Good luck xx
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (15 June 2008):
He's doing what all the advice tells you to do. It was nothing personal, it just means that when you have sex you can just use the pill and you can both enjoy it more.
As for the condom while giving blow jobs thing.... have you considered that he might be doing it because he doesn't want to come too soon? If he gets turned on too much he may just come straight away - but a condom would make it last longer. Also many girls really don't like sperm, so maybe he was being considerate.
It worries me that you are intimate enough with him to suck his privates, but you don't feel close enough to talk about how you feel. Why do you think that is?
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (15 June 2008):
 Your girl friends are taking their chances. What your guy is doing is all right.
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