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writes: I feel so insecure in my current relationship, i have got back together with one of my ex boyfriends, we broke up before because at the time it was just inconvient for us both. But i took him back because he literally begged me too because he had realized what an idiot he was. I love him i can honestly say i am begining to love my current boyfriend. The only problem is i get insecure at every thing. i think heis going to leave me for another girl constantly. my last boyfriend (not the same one iam dating now) cheated on me he never reassured me in our relationship and he was the first boyfriend i have ever loved. i lost my virginity to him, a week later he dumped me for my best friend. but he had told me he loved me, that he would never leave me he said all the right things. but only after , now do i realise how fake his words were. i am terrified of saying i love you or displaying any affection to my current boyfriend incase he doesnt truely want me, in case this is all a joke and he is trying to make someone else jealous, although i know he does love me as he has told me and when he did he didnt say it casually he truely meant it.he is always reassures me he is not pressuring me in to sex with him. but i feel so scared all the time and if i think he wants to leave me for another girl i jusitify it with 'he could do better than me, i don't deserve anything else' because thats hwo my last boyfriend made me feel. how do i overcome these crazy insecurites? i am fed up of thinking everyone is going to leave me because i am not used to anything else
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (15 June 2008):
I'm going to take the tough line on this one and say give yourself a slap. You know you are being crazy about this because of your Ex. So when those feelings creep in then kick yourself up the bum for letting your Ex keep messing you up.
He's gone and in a ditch somewhere. You are a better stronger faster person with a far far better guy.
Kick your own arse and tell yourself to stop being a victim.
Good Luck!! xx
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