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writes:hiya all i have been with my bf for a month now and we have dun pretty much everything apart from have sex.We are both still virgins, and he seys hes ready to have sex and hes being really good about it and is not pressuring me at all, but how will i no when im ready to hve sex with him? i wud like mostly female opinions please thanks xxx Reply to this Question
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reader, penta  +, writes (26 September 2007):
 You can only loose your virginity once. If you put it off now, you can always decide to do it later. But if you do it too soon then it's done.
A month is a really short time. There's a difference in every relationship between infatuation and love. The infatuation stage is at the beginning and it's great. You feel wonderful, and you feel like it will last forever. It doesn't. Once infatuation leaves, if there isn't love to replace it, people drift apart.
Wait until it's more than infatuation before you make this decision. You'll know it's love when even though your heart isn't quite doing back flips every time you see him, still you really like the person you are when he's around. And for some guys, infatuation is over once they get sex. So it's better for you to wait, so that you (and he) know for sure that he loves you. (At your age, I'd say at least 6 months.)
Good luck hon.
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reader, Ms.Sweet dreams  +, writes (26 September 2007):
 u can have sex with him if u really truly love him and dont hurry ur time coz if he loves u then he must wait for the right time that he deserved ur virginity. limit urself coz at the end u will find urself being regret that your both young to had sex. just enjoy together coz sex is not so important for you guys. finish ur study and look forward for ur career and be successful someday. goodluck!!!
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reader, Emaz help +, writes (26 September 2007):
 A month, thats a short time!
I'd wait a bit longer, as you need to trust each other, and what's the point of having sex with someone who is just going to leave you after? (im not saying he is going to leave u)
Anyway, you'll know when you r ready, and it should just happen.
It's good that he isn't pressuring you though!
Plzz b careful =]
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reader, lisa21 +, writes (8 September 2007):
you will know when you are ready when you wont have to ask us. be careful x x x
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reader, darksecretangel +, writes (7 September 2007):
 Hey
You'll just know, when the time is right, and when youve been in a relationship with him for longer, it all depends on you. You will know when you want to have sex with him and he hasnt pressured you. Basically it depends on your attraction to him and your maturity.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2007): You're ready when you're married.
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reader, baybee-x-sparkii +, writes (7 September 2007):
 i see no problem with this, as long as he aint pressuring u....u will no wen ur ready to have sex [the way u no is different in all people] but rememeber condoms and stuff...coz otherwise u culd get into prety big shit...Good Luckxxxx mail me if u wanna tlk more
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reader, d4u04 +, writes (7 September 2007):
 I know you said you wanted mostly female opinions but I think it's the same for men as well.
No-one can ever tell you when you're ready to have sex, you just know within yourself.
If you have doubts, don't do it. But if you're sure that you do want to have sex, be safe and be careful but go for it!
Hope it all works out
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