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writes:i feel so empty, knowing that he does not have feelings for me. I haven't asked him out front, but it's obvious in his actions that he doesn't really know i exist. It started out he'd see me, and smile. Or try and talk, but i never took action. I never stepped up and spoke to him directly, because of my lack of confidence. I'm always worried i'll say the wrong thing. He's quite quiet anyway, and shuts himself off. Now he ignores me when i smile, looks straight through me. He hardly responds when i try and talk to him online. I know he's too good for me, but i really need help on how to start a conversation, when he's just as shy as me. How do i talk to him? Or get him to notice me again? Or how to stop all these mad feelings and just get over him. Sorry this is so long, its just hard to explain how i feel. i know my emotions are all over the place because i'm young, but knowing this does not help anything. please answer x
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reader, MandiPandi +, writes (21 January 2011):
 "I know he's too good for me" geeez well there Is your problem right there! People are drawn to people with confidence. I used tO be like you till I started therapy and energy work. You sound like you are depending on his affection to make you happy and science you went getting it you are upset. If you really want it get it! :) join clubs or classes that you know he is ask him about home work but DONT get clingy that will bug him. Try to give him space before trying any of these. And if it doesn't work out then it wasn't ment to be.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (19 January 2011):
Hi there. It sounds like he is pretty shy too, and that his feelings are maybe developing a bit more, for you.
We are all created equal, so don't think of anyone being any better than you. That just isn't true.
Perhaps, instead of trying to walk up to him to have a conversation, why don't you just in passing, simply say to him - "Hi." And smile. Just like that. Then keep on walking. Whenever you pass him on your way to class.
Do this each time you have to walk past each other, then he will probably do the same to you. It's a start.
Don't try to push it. If you are going to get together, it will happen in it's own time. You can't force it.
If over time, you do get to actually talk, just relax and be yourself. Talk about interests, books, movies, tv shows, music - anything at all really. Just keep it light and don't tell him how you feel. Avoid that altogether.
Best wishes.
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reader, Advice_man  +, writes (18 January 2011):
 My dear, you are saying he is too good for you so probably he will never be interested. Those are the facts and the rules of the love game. How much would you honestly rate yourself out of 10 in terms of what you have to offer, personality & appearance? Whatever the number, try to look for someone equivalent in the opposite sex. Be careful though, as people tend to over-evaluate themselves! Also a little tip: we men are simple! If a girl makes a move on us and we are interested we will respond for sure! But let us do a little hunting too, we like it. Best wishes
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