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*miley5jan
writes:Hi guys now i have been seeing my boyfriend for 17 months yesterday we got into an arguement and i called him immature and a wannabe because he made his female friend fall off a rope while she was walking on it and also turned her kayak and made her fall in the water , she has a casual boyfriend it was perfectly innocent but my boyfriend is a decade elder than all of us there and i wish he would act his age and i kept stressing on that fact , after we got home we were just arguing and in reply to all of this he calls me fat and ugly , and i get angry and tell him to look at himself first and he kept calling me fat and ugly repeatedly i didnt react and i started watching tv , he actually gets his feet very close to my face with the heel of the shoe close between the tv and my face almost touching my nose which is extremely disrespectful in my country , so i push him and give him a wack he then kicks me lightly and says if you hit me again i will kick you so badly or a threat like that i was so angry i wacked him again and he kicks me lightly i was so angry that i ignore him and he goes home , the next day which is monday i dont speak to him the whole day and ignore him cause i was so hurt evening he calls me and when i confront him he says he was just playing with me when he was bringing the shoe next to my face and apologizes my question is does he deserve a second chance or are we too messed up and he will never respect me so i should move on ?
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reader, Smiley5jan +, writes (28 July 2011):
Smiley5jan is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI ignored him for two days second day which was yesterday he came home and i asked him how would you feel if someone did that to his sister and he got pissed off and said listen fuck face i have told you not to bring my family in between also he kept pushing me around and said ah now you will start crying so i decided to end it , now he keeps messaging sorry or calling me which i keep ignoring hope i have no other drama from his side anymore
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reader, josephy  +, writes (26 July 2011):
 Give him a chance if you want to and if you really believe that you can change him. Give him a chance yet not chances.
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reader, VSAddict  +, writes (26 July 2011):
 You can show him this if you want, but it porbly will have no effect on him. If he's always been this way, then he won't change. Move on and be happy.
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reader, Smiley5jan +, writes (26 July 2011):
Smiley5jan is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you to all the the lovely ladies for a reply , the thing is he is a great guy otherwise but just that his manners are lacking along with his class , maybe he was brought up like that i dont know , sometimes he just becomes extremely bullying but the rest of the time he is a nice guy , just extremely boyish , he is 34 to be precise and when he dropped the female she was laughing and smiling the whole time but i thought it was extremely inappropriate , i told him to make it up to me and get therapy for his attitude or else lose me forever the thing is he doesnt take me seriously , i should move on but i have invested close to a year in this relationship and i d rather make it work but is there no way to change him ? Make him understand ? But also an adult is supposed to know not to bring your feet in someones face specially to do it to a woman it is disrespectful in any culture . . Can i make him see this post and make his realize why he is wrong , also i myself cannot bear to look at him since he did that to me on sunday , he has been calling and messaging and i have been ignoring him , should i continue doing that ? He apologised about it but his talk is extremely cheap , he just says it to get out of trouble . . .this is the gist , as well i could explain . . Thank you everyone again for your opinions really appreciate it :-)
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reader, VSAddict +, writes (26 July 2011):
This guy isn't entitled to another chance and doesn't deserve one, so find someone who can act their age.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (26 July 2011):
 Move on. He's an abusive bully.
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reader, josephy +, writes (26 July 2011):
He is mean to his friends, he's mean to you. it's not about giving or deserving chances. Are you happy with him? Is he making you happy?
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