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writes:how soon is it too for non virgin to have sex with a guy you just met?? when you want a relationship+sex and not just sex, so the guy would not think ur easy.oh and if guys like girls who makes them, wait, then why do they always ask for sex and gets moody when the girl says no? obviously when they put such pressure the girl would give in to make her guy happy cos she loves him??thnx..xx Reply to this Question
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reader, Libra1963  +, writes (17 February 2010):
 When a guy gets moody because you want give him sex - tell him to go and get it somewhere else. He just wants someone to use and will whisper anything in your ears to get it.
You should not let guys use you. They donot love the way women do and would screw anything if it wa available regardless how it looks. (Sorry guys!)
If you have meet someone you can tell if they are the one if they do not pressure you. You can kiss and cuddle and fondling but save something.
I did not let my partner get near me for months and months. 26 years later we still have a lot of respect for each other and are still together.
Good Luck and be safe and careful!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2010): I usually make the guy wait a couple months... He respects you that way, and it also builds trust because he knows that you wont just put out for anybody. Build a relationship first, and then get intimate when the time is right. Depending on the person and the relationship Ive waited anywhere from 2months to 6months.. and every boyfriend I have had has always ended up really respecting that about me even though they might have not liked waiting.. in the end, they trust and respect you for it.
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (17 February 2010):
 You would be well advised to date him for at least a month or more before having sex. This will give you time to get to know one another and begin to develop a sense as to how well-suited the two of you are. Jumping into bed too soon tends to mean that sex becomes the main focus of the friendship, and your ability to evaluate whether this is someone you want to develop a relationship with is lessened.
As to why men like women who make them wait, but still keep pressuring them to give in, well, it's partly the thrill of the chase. Yes, men want sex quite quickly, but this conflicts with their wish to see a woman as someone they are able to respect. (They tend to think that if "she" had sex with me so quickly, how do I know she won't cheat with another man).
However, any man worth his salt, will show he's interested in you sexually, that he finds you attractive, but he will (or should be) willing to take things slow and not keep hassling you.........because if he does pile on the pressure, you'd be justified in thinking that's all he's interested in.
Hope this helps.
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reader, adjc? +, writes (17 February 2010):
i know what you talking about, i think it all depends on how you feel about this person. how much time you spend together, what you talk about. if you feel a real connection with them and deep down you don't feel like you will regret it then id say when ever. just not in the first week or so. but dont wait to to long. and maybe consider oral? then lead up the the real thing?
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