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writes:Help My boyfriend is coming around on friday for his car tax that arrived, we broke up six months ago after a 11 years he left me for another women. he never stopped texting me since he left and the texts have got much heavier over the last two weeks i never texted him he done the texting first which is good for me been strong by not texting him.Im hoping he will come back if not friday maybe must he sees me he will realise what he threw away????whats the best way of handling it when i see him, how can i win him back??? what do i say ???i know i will look good, for him i.e do my hair put nice clothes on and i have also loss weight even though i wasnt big in the beginning but thats through stress.he did go through alot last year me loosing my job his mums second husband left her she threated to commit suicide.
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reader, TwiggyCA  +, writes (23 June 2009):
 I think you need to text him and tell him that you'll mail his tax bill to him. Don't see him. It's a bad idea. If he broke up with you for another woman after 11 years, you need to have some self-respect and move on. You deserve better!
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reader, Starlights +, writes (22 June 2009):
 This ex boyfriend of your's doesnt sound very nice... he walked out on you after 11 years, why are u still carrying a torch for him?
what happens if u guys get back together you will be forever wondering would he walk out again when the going gets tough?
maybe he will cheat again. Unfortunately people do not change easy.
Make an effort to be polite when he does come round, but i'd think your settling for less if you do want to get back with him.
yes he went through alot last year, but it still doesnt excuse him cheating on you then leaving you with the hurt and pain.
im sure he is still very much attached to you thats why he keeps texting, 11 years is a long time to be with someone!
honestly, u shud keep him as a friend but as a longterm partner, no, chances are he'll hurt you again.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 June 2009): I agree with the first post. You should not be wanting to win him back. When a man leaves you for another woman, you don't need to be too polite or friendly. The only time that you can be friends with an ex is when there is still mutual trust and respect, and how can you have any for him? You shouldn't!!
Guys like him will make you forever question your self worth. He will constantly make you wonder what his motives are and why you are not enough for him when he doesn't give you the sort of relationship you want.
Do yourself a favor and move on. If you see him be civil but not more, but I really recommend cutting the strings and moving past him...save yourself the torture!
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reader, mitta +, writes (22 June 2009):
You shouldnt be trying to win back a man who left you. If he really wants to make it work with you he is the one who has to lay his cards on the table and BEG you to forgive him and try again. So first of all forget thinking that.Just look your best, be polite, let him do all the work. You are worth alot more than a man who deserted you, so dont lower yourself by making it too obvious you want him. He might just want to sleep with you, and if you let him then he might leave again leaving you more devastated than before. Dont let him breeze in and disturb the life you've started to make by yourself.Dont start thinking that something dramatic and life changing will happen, he's only coming to get his car tax. Thats it.Even if he does get down on his knees and apologise and you get back together, not everything will be rosey... Is he the best you can do? I know 11 years is a long time but there are other men out there.i wish you all the best no matter what happens.
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