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writes:in a marriage should the man pay the mortgage? how do you feel about it is are hous we split the mortgage Reply to this Question
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (6 March 2010):
 Depending on the circumstance and other factors .
Normally , it is expected of the man to pay the mortgage . Both of them can discuss this issue and come to a compromise.
There are no hard and fast rules. Rather it should be a consensus .
Both of you will have to decide who has to pay what in a marriage .If the man can afford it , it will not be a problem.Otherwise everything will need to be split proportionately.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (6 March 2010):
Depends how much you earn in comparison to your wife. If you earn more, you should pay more. Clearly if you are the only one earning money, you pay all. If you are both earning, you both should pay, but it's all relevant to how much you earn.
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reader, Red Green 0289  +, writes (6 March 2010):
It sounds like you are two people sharing a house, not two people sharing a life. Why are you dividing bills? IMO, the best way to live, is to join together, combine your income and the bills, create a budget and TOGETHER pay the bills and monitor the financial health of your home. If you two are picking at details, and dividing bills up you're creating tension and the reality is that at the end of each month the bills have to be paid. It sounds like each of you is fighting to maintain some amount of cash in your own little pile, for your own use. If this is the case, that's stupid. You need to both set aside a monthly amount that you get for 'fun' money, and set aside a savings amount.Now, if one of you has a pile of cash that was yours prior to marriage, then be smart about it. Don't burn through it, but don't refuse to pay a reasonable share of bills if your partner doesn't make a lot of money- you should have gone into this relationship eyes wide open about responsibility and money- and if you didn't money is the biggest reasons couples fail- get hold of it now.
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reader, weparley +, writes (6 March 2010):
If you want to feel "MACHO" (Donald Trump status)... Then go ahead and pay for all of it yourself. But commenly it would be split. Nothing wrong with that.But some men like to go off there ego and try to play Mr. Macho. "I'll pay for all the bills etc. soon to discover that they are bitter and very much streesed out.
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