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writes:People I need your advice here?My 1st cousin and I are really in love and he is 5 yrs older than me.we never really told each other that we did because it felt strange.It all started like this...My family moved to his town when I was like 10...we started talking and stuff and got really close.I have other male cousins but him and I just clicked at once.when I was 12 things got different...we were suddenly making out a lot.secretly though.when I was 13 my family had to move millions of miles away from them and it was kinda hard.And because we never really told each other that we loved each other,our connection kind of went on a stand still.I later found out he had a very beautiful girlfriend who was my senior in high school.I was a little crushed but what could I do,right?After 2 years of not seeing each other but with constant communication,I and my siblings had to go back to visit them for a month and again we were talking like nothing like that ever happened.While I was there,I fell in love with his young brother's(who is my age) best friend.Little did I know that it was killing him inside.The night I was going back home,he was suddenly quiet which is very unusal for him.we sat outside and started talking and suddenly he poured his heart out to me.I hadn't realised how much I still love him.He tried to kiss me but I said no because I was just from kissing goodbye my new boyfreind.I turned around and stood still for a sec then he pulled me into a tight embrace then finally whispered 'I love you'.I kissed his neck and every part of his face but avoided his lips and I whispered 'I love you too'I love my boyfriend so much but i love my cousin too.what if my boyfriend finds out the ugly truth about me because he believes in me so much.What if my family finds out about him and I...and keep in mind that he is 5 years older than me,making him 20,and my brothers,who are close to him too are almost the same age.One being 1 year older than him and the other 2 yrs older than him.Won't they kill him.He is coming to live with my family in the next half of the year or maybe the next but what do we do??I told him that if he is going to be mine,I want to have him by myself.And he promises he will wait for me.and he doesn't want to hear anything about my bf even though he knows that am not going to break up with him soon because I love him.I need advice people.please...Am really religious too which makes it complicated because i don't understand why its happening like this lol.What do I do?
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reader, kadinza  +, writes (11 March 2010):
I am going to say the most unpopular thing here, but there are places where first cousins can marry. However be prepared for a good chunk of your family to disown you. I don't them and you might get lucky. My best friend growing up married his first cousin and they are very happy. Their parents supported them. I am a Christian, but in the research I did on this to help put my friend I discovered that the incest laws were created because the Jews after the exodus wanted to prevent anyone from holding the great power the Egyptians did through family intermarriage. Rhodes Island has removed all of its incest laws. Ohio only targets parent child relationships and New Jersey allows it as long as both parties are above the age of 18. I believe we will continue to see the incest laws of our ancestors lax and all be repealed. If you disagree with me tell me what your child's December break from school is called... The left wing is running over the Christian right in this nation and the concepts it stood for. My girlfriend and her little sister have a very intimate sexual relationship and I would never think less of her for it. I hope that this all works out for you and I pray that you find the happiness you are seeking in your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanx!!!
i will b waiting to hear more of your advice
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reader, Primo48 +, writes (8 March 2010):
My female cousin and were born 3 hours apart. We were always put in cribs together and as very young children were put in bed together. This went on for years and when we turned 12 they put us in seperate roomss. She would get lonely and come back to my bed. The parents didn't know that I thougth this too. One night at 14, were in bed in a fetal position and I got a boner. She felt his and started rubing her but against me. Remember this was in the early 60's when "Free love" was getting started. She turned around and put her hand on me and I jumped. We got naked and experimented with "Making out, and sex." We didn't make a big deal out of it as were keeping to ourselves it was no big deal. We felt no difference. As the years went on, we realized that our parents could have explained things to us, we might not have gone on to experiment. We are in our 60's now and have not had sex in over 45 years. We are still friends and still close, but by doing this, we were confused when it came to having relationships with other peopls.
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reader, kristianna +, writes (7 March 2010):
okay well my opinion on this is i know how you feel but your cousin is someone you should consider family no sexual contact should be there. Another thing if you love your cousin no problem but if you start loving him more and more to the point where you want to be with forever do you think your family will accept that ?? i dont think they will. I think you should stick with your boyfriend because if you let him go you would be letting someone good go. Maybe you and your cousin have some sort of feeling for each other which will probably not go away it has happened to me i still love my cousin but we now avoid each other because we feel guilty on what has occured...I say love your cousin for a cousin and nothing more..I hope you can figure things out your still young and so am i and i think you should forget about your cousin think of him as best friend...
PEACE AND LOVE ^_^
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reader, Domi +, writes (6 March 2010):
Well when i was younger i had a crush on my cousin but nothin like that....i think u guys love each other in the wrong way n its not rite u can not b with ur cousin i think u should tell ur parents so u can get help good luck
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