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*uperhoopschick
writes:What is too obsessive? my boyfriend tells me that i am too obsessive. I live an hour away from him and call him during my breaks and he calls me during his. Then i ask what he is doing. All of the sudden he ask if I am obssed with him. How do you know when too much is too much? Also when he compare me to his ex-doing the same thing, it bothers me. Please help
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reader, Pinkbees09 +, writes (5 October 2007):
 I wouldn't say your obsessed from what you've said here. Maybe he had an old gf who was really obsessed with him and he wants to make sure the same thing doesn't happen with you, I don't know lol.
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reader, chrissies  +, writes (3 October 2007):
 i don't think that you have an obsession, we all show our commitment to each other in different ways,obviously if he does have a problem then may b just back off slightly with the phone calls etc,then see how he feels,he should never v compare you to his ex,thats really really not fair and may be you should mention this to him.please don't feel let him make you feel like you have a problem just because your very intentive.he should be flattered,not put off.and don't let yourself feel like you have a problem,please, once some one can start blaming you for there problems, they will do it agian and again and you will always be made to feel like you have a problem.i get the feeling that may be your a bit insecure your self,please don't take this the wrong way my dear friend,we all feel like this at some time in our lives and it's ok to feel like this it shows we are human and have a heart to feel with.you feel what's right for you and if you feel that you are not getting or feeling the love you so so desire.then look within your self that's all you ever need is your self.and love yourself through and through,none of us are perfect that's what makes us all so special.x
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reader, rcn +, writes (3 October 2007):
 I would be bothered as well. I'd almost be prompt to ask him "who is she?" Obsession you can rate with maybe addiction, something overly attached too. Two people who are together generally look forward to the next phone call or seeing them the next time, now if this is from work, he may have been asked if you were, and relaying that to you. I've been picked on when I was younger with these contacts.
I would be upset being compared to an ex. That's not right. I'd just wait until you talk to him next and:
Why did you state I'm obsessed with you.
What are you saying when comparing me to your ex?
You need to know what he's thinking. It's not fair to keep you hanging on if his intentions are not what you're expecting.
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