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writes:I love my girlfriend, and like I have seen both of our fathers do, I like to (in private) randomly grap my girlfriend's butt or boobs and maybe squeeze them, but never anything forceful. She'll laugh or say something like "oh yeah" in a "naughty voice," and doesn't seem to mind it. However, sometimes I feel dirty and disgusting for doing so, and would like to just stop, even though she has no negative feelings about it. Therefore I ask, how much groping is considered too much?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2010): Ask her how much is too much and she will tell you. But she may eventually get bored after some time.Signs include being less verbal or a nasty comment, moving your hands away or moving her body to avoid you. If this happens take the hint and stop immediately.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (17 May 2010):
 It's too much when she slaps you hand away :)
OK? If you pat her on the rear, stroke her arm, leg what not, in passing I think that is nice. Most women likes little sign of affection, specially if it is done for HER benefit only ( as in not when others are watching). Personally, I like it. My husband still does it 12 years down the line :)
I can't see why you would feel gross about it though? You feel like you are objectifying her? Claiming "ownership"? What?
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reader, dirtball +, writes (17 May 2010):
 As long as it's well received, it is definitely not too much. If it makes you feel dirty, why not try a kiss on the cheek, or a gentle hug instead. These little moments of affection can mean a lot while being less "dirty."
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2010): A girl always knows when its done with love.I wouldn't mind my guy doing out of love.When I am busy trying to get things done I wouldn't want to be groped.When I am cooking at leisure when he comes and hugs me from behind,he gives a light squeeze,a nip in the ear and dances out of my reach into the bedroom.I can't wait for the dinner to cook fast and rush back to him in the bedroom.:)
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (17 May 2010):
 It depends on the individual , the mood ,the ambiance and the time of the day.
As long as the other person feels comfortable , it is not excessive.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2010): If it makes you feel uncomfortable, then don't do it! Simple as that.
Personally I think groping in that way is much better when its 'in the moment'. For example, if you are kissing passionately then a well timed grope can be very sexy. I find being groped randomly while I'm just going about my day to be a little bit demeaning.
Thats just my opinion, hope it helps.
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reader, Christine82  +, writes (17 May 2010):
Ok, why do you feel this is dirty?
Groping your partner is quite normal in a relationship.
I quite often go in the kitchen and give my partners bum a squeeze or smack and he does the same to me. I know he enjoys what he sees by doing so.
To your question I'd say there isn't really too much groping as long as she is happy for you to do it. She probably feels loved when you do it. But if it makes you feel dirty like you say then why not try cuddling sometimes instead of groping. Grope too but cuddle as well.
Hope this helps
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