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writes:okay people, i have a question a bit embarrassing. i just wondered, how long do guys generally last before they cum during anal sex? my boyfriend has done it before ( not with me) but i haven't.he said he wouldnt last long anyway, coz it would be a huge turn on, but i just wonder coz he's experienced how long he'd last average because of the pain factor. please help. oh and he said anal is a privilege, and it would be as slow and gentle as i like, but will that make him last longer!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2014): Write down time of regular(vaginal sex) when your boyfriend is really turned on and divide it by 2, or even 3 if he is a beginner in sex... That's the answer how anal is. :P
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks every one for the advice. my bf said i would be in complete control, and would be as slow and gentle as i like. and end as down as i want it to. ( said if first time is bad i would never want to Do it again. so id be in complete control. ) well we are gana give it a go. so thanks evvery one for the advice x
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (22 March 2012):
 I have the hunch that you are reluctantly agreeing to anal sex, and hope it will not take long and will not hurt. The key word here is "reluctantly". Don't do anything you don't want to do. And, if it hurts, something could be damanged and you don't want that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2012): I don't like his wording at all. He sounds maliputalive and self serving.
Anal sex is NOT a privelage. Its for those couples who love, honour, and trust in one another and work together and both desire and want to please one another. Sexual intimacy is not about the 'experience' but more of spending the time and care to love one another on such a deep, personal, loving level.
I'd say he may not last more than 10 mintues. However, as soon as you discover discomfort, pain, fear, or disinterest and lack of desire- END IT IMMEDIATELY.
If you are that hesitant tell him its a no go. There are many couples who do not need or desire anal sex to occur for them to have a loving relationship with amazing friendship and sex life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2012): Please don't even continue for a minute if it hurts you at all!!! There should be no pain...a little discomfort at first, but not pain! If it hurts, stop immediately, and make sure you are in control of how he goes inside you. Use your own hand to guide his penis, if you have to so he knows not to push too hard too quickly.
It took me over a year of multiple tries for me to finally be able to do it and for it to feel good. And even now, after having anal at least once a week, the only way we can start is with him entering me from behind, and extremely slow. Any other position hurts at entry, but once he's in, I love it.
And just because your guy says he's done it before, does not mean a thing...what he may or may not have done before does not make him experienced when it comes to you (the two of you together)...everyone is different, so you are BOTH new to this experience.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2012): "How long do guys normally last during anal sex?"
Unanimous consensus among those responding to informal survey: As long as it takes us to ejaculate.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (22 March 2012):
 You shouldn't do something that hurts just because it's a turn on. Anything where you'd be sitting there wishing it would end as soon as possible is not something you should be doing to pleasure your partner.
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reader, katiekate +, writes (22 March 2012):
 In my experience (only done twice), it does not last more than a few minutes. I assume because of the tightness- it makes them cum very easily and quickly. Plus, like your boyfriend said, most men find this a huge turn on and it's not something they get to experience often, so that will probably speed along the process as well. But only do this if you really want to, are extremely relaxed, and are prepared for a very uncomfortable feeling (it gets better after the first minute or two). Oh- and have LOTS of lube!! (And go to the bathroom well beforehand).
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reader, unknown2u +, writes (22 March 2012):
It kinda depends. Some guys are inclined to go off fairly quickly, and so have to work hard during vaginal sex to prolong the process so she has a change to get something out of it. Obviously that's not the case with anal, where from her perspective quicker is likely better. Add the forbidden/kinky/fetish factor, and yes it's true he's not likely to last as long. But that's going to be relative to how long he normally lasts.
Personally my first x number of attempts were unsuccessful because the very act of trying was such a turn on it put me over. Even after quite a few successful attempts I would probably not last more than five minutes.
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