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writes:I am currently 13 weeks pregnant with my second child to a new partner, it wasn't planned and ever since I have found out I have not really felt happiness. I feel quite depressed and i think its more then my hormones I don't feel excited and struggling to connect... I worry about the change from just me and my first child and how he will feel. I am struggling to be around the father everything he does annoys me and I just don't want him hugging and kissing me. He is brilliant with my child and suddenly I feel so jelous watching him play with him. I don't know what's up with me and I'm so worried, sad, depressed and low..I did think of abortion but decided not to.. I am going to see a mental health professional next week as I have been reading up on prenatal depression has anyone ever suffered with this does it get better.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (18 April 2015):
 Honestly, from your update I get it. You are worried about having to raise ANOTHER child n your own, because you are not happy with your partner these days.
If your OBGYN suggest a counselor, go for it. Sometimes talking it though can make a huge difference.
I hope you get to feel better and soon.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (17 April 2015):
 But maybe it is just hormones, how would you know ?
Rapid increases in hormone levels at the beginning of a pregnancy can disrupt brain chemistry and cause depression ( and / or anxiety ) - as well as the opposite. It's a biochemical thing.
The same hormones , and the same process, which make some women depressed, in more women , instead, cause that typical state of euphoria, wellness, elation... that you experienced too with your first pregnancy- it's a draw of luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks honeypie I think I thought of a abortion because how depressed I have felt and it seemed strange that I wasn't happy like I was with my son who is nearly 3 by the way. And also the way I have started to feel about my partner like I don't love him and don't want to be around him really worries me. I am going to see someone so I hope I can start to feel better and work out what's wrong.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (17 April 2015):
I've dealt with postpartum depression and it was no fun either, make SURE you talk to your OBGYN and LISTEN to their advice.
Why did you consider an abortion? Was it because you didn't feel ready? (nothing wrong in being a little scared, and there is nothing wrong in thinking a baby wasn't exactly what you wanted right now) Sometimes... KIDS happen.
I don't know the age of your older child, but in my experience most kids like the idea of a sibling (until they figure out that babies can't PLAY with them for a good while) But if YOU and your partner are POSITIVE about the pregnancy, your child will be too. I'd find some "I'm having a sibling" books and read to him.
Do you think you are sad and worried because you HAD one child and the father left and now you are pregnant again? That you are scared of being alone with 2 kids? I mean that would make sense. And I think it's pretty natural to not feel excited.
I didn't know I was pregnant with #2 til almost halfway in, when I started to have contractions (not good) and I went to see my doctor telling him about these weird cramps that came out of nowhere and not when I was having my period... turned out I was pregnant. And I was pretty much in shock for a good month, ended up being put on bedrest due to the contractions and because I DID feel stressed about having a second child (THE plan.. had been one kid, not two) And here I am today with 3 kids 14, 12 and 10 and I can't picture it any other way.
TALK to your OBGYN. Make sure you get plenty of rest and fluids, get out and go for some walks (get some sun on your face).
YOU can do this.
*hugs*
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (16 April 2015):
 I'd also check with your OBGYN.
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