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writes:so im back. I asked a question about my girlfriend leaving me. I was told that i would get over it and able to stop this numbness that I feel. its been a couple months. I still think about her everyday, I look at my phone every couple hours. just to see if I got a text from her. I don't want a text from her and don't want to think about her but I can't stop. what is goin on how do I stop all this fast?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2009): i know how you feel mate,it took me over a year to get used to my ex wife leaving me,and i still find it hard,you just got to find something positive to look for,and channel all your anger and hurt into that,why dont you delete her number from your phone,and anything else you have that hers get rid of,it be hard but you will feel better for it.good luck mate.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (27 September 2009):
Get out there and keep busy. Don't sit around staring at your phone. Use the phone to call your friends and go out. There's no quick fix, but you'll see that there are other girls out there. One will be for you.
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reader, ransplace +, writes (27 September 2009):
 You must try and keep yourself busy! Go out hang with friends. That is the only way you can keep yourself from thinking of her. It may take some time since it is fresh, but trust me it works for me. Give it a shot see how it goes. Good luck.
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reader, Justified +, writes (27 September 2009):
 Get a new fling then you will have someelse to think about. If you are alone then you will continue to think about her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2009): I know how you feel. This happened to me a couple of years ago. It took me a year to get over my partner. You may never truely forget them, but before long you'll start thinking about dating again. And like me think well they didn't deserve me anyway. Try going out with your mates to take your mind off it. Or talk about it with one of your closest friends. And with the phone try a day without it if you can. Out of sight out of mind maybe. :-) hope that's helpful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2009): A broken heart is hard to mend. It really is, They key to it is stop thinking about her. Sports and music really helped me when my heart got broken. The gym was actually savage! I played this game with myself where if I looked at my phone for a text from her I would HAVE TO do 20 press ups. And I make myself do it too.This worked absolutely perfect. Not only did I think of her less and less, But I used my hurt feelings from her and I channeled it into something positive for my new life. I was stronger, Happier and all the other girls started to compliment me on how bulky and muscly I was getting!Music also does help but it could hurt more too. Try to listen to some new bands. Rory Gallagher, NOFX, Guns n Roses, Pink Floyd, Dropkick Murphys, Flogging Molly are all bands you may or may not of heard of. There pretty good too:) Dont listen to bands that ye used to listen to together. Dont listen to love songs, Cuz 1...There crap, and 2, not good for broken hearts lolAnyway, Let me know how you are,Best of luck
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reader, Elizabeth-Emma +, writes (27 September 2009):
 Hello there,
I read your question a few times over and i really do have to say that it does get easier over time. Im sure you've heard that a lot, it is hard, Especially when you have loved someone. The only thing i can really suggest to help yourself is to go out there and find someone else, maybe just a good friend for now and not a relationship, but it will happen again when your ready. Dont let this girl who let you go, get you down,You have to think positive and think that she is missing out, go and have some fun and enjoy life being single for a little while before you know it, you will have forgotten your feelings for this girl and be happy again. goodluck through positive thinking.
;-] Elizabeth-Emma
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reader, AngellicaWaters +, writes (27 September 2009):
 It's hard to get over relationships, but you have to be willing to invest more time in yourself than you do thinking about her. Stop looking at your phone. Start to spend more of your time around your family or your friends or doing something enjoyable where you lose track of time in a good way. Ask your friends and family to change the subject if you bring her up to help you get thoughts of her out of your head. The more you do things that you enjoy, the less you will think of her and the quicker you can stop those constant thoughts, the faster things will become easier for you.I hope this helps you. Breakups are not easy, but people get through them all of the time. It is possible, it's just a process to get to the end of it.-Angellica
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reader, dudeman +, writes (27 September 2009):
dude, this is a tough one. i hate to say it, but there is no easy way to get over the person you loved. they say there is always those one or two girls that take FOREVER to get over. you know time will heal all wounds but everyday for you is a struggle. it seems like everyday is split into seconds and the only thing that gets you through the day is the fact that she might text you or call you and say how much she misses you. my advice to you, is to turn to family and focus on something important in your life. (fitness, job, friends)go to the gym on a daily basis and try to talk to other girls for a change. FORCE yourself to do something nice for YOU. get a haircut, go eat out, go see a movie, go hang out with a friend or two. just stay focused on YOU. eventually you will forget all about her, and when you do, youll look back and know you deserved better anyways.
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