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writes:So this is basically a short, right to the point question, how do you "put yourself" in someone else's shoes to see their point of view?And how do you figure out if its you or them with the problem? Ive noticed many relationships of all kinds end because people just cant find a solution to a problem. what factors do you consider? what are you supposed to do to help see things their way, just to make sure its not really your fault?any advice is welcome, im sorry if the question is a bit connfusing, i worded it the best I could. Reply to this Question
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reader, DeadEyeDick +, writes (12 January 2010):
 This is something I learned to do when I was a little boy! it's extremely important that people do it, it's easy, you merely stop for a second, and imagine if you were going through what the other person is going through, think of how you would feel, what you would do, what you would expect! then you know what it's like to be in their shoes, so to speak.
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reader, pancakes rule  +, writes (12 January 2010):
 The best way to see someone else's point of view is to imagine really hard everything that they are going through. Although this can be difficult especially if you don't know absolutely everything going on with them and their way of thinking.
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reader, Ask_Pol  +, writes (12 January 2010):
 There isn't an easy way to put yourself in someone else's shoes. I find that the best way is to try and work out how I would feel if in their situation. Although this isn't always easy to do. I try by listening to what they have said to me and processing the way they are feeling and thinking. Its difficult to do depending on the situation that you are in. But sometimes it is difficult to put aside the way you feel and look at the other persons point of view.I hope that was of some help.
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