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writes:How do you know if you love someone?How do you know it's not just lust?What if you go back out with someone you recently broke up with to find that it was a mistake?Why can't love be easy..I don't really want to give any more information. I'm not one to ask for help. But I could do with some :(
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reader, softtouchmale2003  +, writes (17 October 2009):
 Love is never easy.To know if you are truly in love with someone, its very simple to understand:1. There is a deep, emotional connection.2. You find that when they are away from you, you miss them and you miss being close with them.3. When that person is in the room your heart is content and you light up inside because life without that person is unhappy. They don't make you happy per se, but you are happy when you are with them.4. This is a person whom you trust implicitly with your deepest thoughts and feelings, and whom you know will not hurt you, but will always be there to listen and help you.5. This is a person that you want most to share your time with, whom your affections are intended; and whom you physically love to touch and enjoy their touch.6. THis is a person whom, you can rest your head on his or her chest or shoulder, and feel the deepest of all emotional connections with and know is there for you.7. This is a person whom you feel life would be so difficult without, and whom you feel almost as if you share the same skin.8. This is a person whom you make wonderful memories with, and don't want to ever not share those memories again.9. This is the person who will stand by you, no matter how sick or hurt you may be, and will want to help heal and mend you, and hold your hand during the darkest of days.Just a short list for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2009): You know its just lust if you spend time with the person without sex and find yourself utterly bored and wishing you were hanging out with someone else.
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reader, Starlights +, writes (17 October 2009):
 How do you know if you love someone? you know by the following;
its when you both are apart that you truly miss being in that other person's company because they are the one that makes you happy.
Its when you realise you want to spend the rest of your life with that person.
Its when your loyal to that person forsaking all others.
Its a good feeling which resides in your heart and wakens when you remember that person you love.
Lust however is purely physical, shorterm and just about sex. Liken it to animal behaviour.
Love cannot be seen but is everlasting.
If you find you have made a mistake going back with someone do not be hard on yourself, we are only human and all of us have made mistakes.
Find it in your heart to let that other person go free kindly and move on with your life.
Love is easy, we are all capable of love, but not everyone loves the same way we do.
Hope this helps, & goodluck!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (17 October 2009):
When you love someone, you just know it.
If it's just lust, it'll be that you want to be with them for sex, then just don't want to be with them the rest of the time.
If you're going out with someone you don't want to go out with, end it and move on.
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