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writes:Hi everyone, How do you know if it's love not lust? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2007): Love = Human InstinctLust = Animal InstinctIn Lust, you don't really care about the feelings of the other person, in Love, you do. Like i know a couple of girls. One of them constantly gives me a thought of Shagging her all the time, the other one gives me tender feelings of being considerate to her. If i was to be in love with someone, it would be the later one for sure.
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reader, here_2_help  +, writes (10 February 2007):
 simple love= the first thing you think about when you wake and the last thing you think about when you sleeplust= the thing you think about when your horny or boredhope this helps xx
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reader, AskEve +, writes (10 February 2007):
 Lust is when you crave sex from her all the time, you can't wait to go to bed with her and think of sex and when you'll next be able to make out. You want to see her, you lust after her because she turns you on sexually.
If you truly love someone then you respect them for who they are, warts and all. You want to look after them and protect them, you look out for them and put them first. You feel happy and content in their company and enjoy being together. Above all you can be yourself when you're with them. You never try to be anything more or someone different because you don't need to. You don't have to impress them to win them over and you never have to play games to make them like you. There is trust and understanding on both sides and you feel safe and secure within yourself. You would never undermine them, they are not someone in whose company you feel threatened or small. They are someone with whom you can share your innermost thoughts and worries, a person with whom you should be able to share anything, they are your friend and your confidante and you can be honest with them at all times, you can tell them anything because they love you as you are.
He/she may be someone who is the direct opposite of you. On the surface you may seem like chalk and cheese. Whilst you may be loud and forceful they may be quiet and thoughtful. You may come from different backgrounds, different countries or be twenty years apart but this doesn't matter. There is an unspoken language between you, the spiritual connection between you both is so deep that you seem to be able to communicate without even speaking to each other. You are happy to lie in silence together. You feel sometimes that there is no need to talk because you feel that you know what they are thinking anyway. You feel so close to them that sometimes you think you could almost read their mind. You know when they are worried, in pain, or sad just by looking at them. It is as though there exists some kind of telepathy between you.
Real love stands the test of time, you laugh together, cry together and even have your differences but this doesn't matter, you love that person AND their failings. You come together in a crisis and work through things together and this just brings you closer. You take their feelings into consideration in all that you do. They are the most important person in your life!
Eve
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