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writes:I was wondering if anyone can relate to this. I used to have a boyfriend who lived an hour away from me. And the relationship lasted like five months. I was never in love with him and was not really physically atracted to him but I had more fun with him than what I have with my current boyfriend of two years.My current boyfriend lives 10 minutes from me and we see each other almost every day. The thing is even when he is all I ever dreamed about in a man physically and we get along good (he is not nearly as romantic as the other one) I feel things are not as magical as with the other one. I know this is kind of a teenager question but I have only had two serious relationships in my life and I wanted to know if it's normal for a relationship to evolve like this. If you see each other everyday...Does the magic fade faster? Reply to this Question
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reader, cd206  +, writes (10 February 2007):
 Hmm well first thing's first. If you're only seeing someone occassionally the lust stage of the relationship is going to last longer whereas with your new guy the lust will fade faster but the love will come quicker. It's also worth remembering that if the other guy was your first serious relationship he'll always be extra magical for that reason. Noone can ever make you feel like that first boyfriend does.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (10 February 2007):
 I do think that seeing someone everyday can make the relationship fade faster. Living father away from someone can make time you spend together feel that much more special. Right now, you probably feel a little obligated to see each other everyday because you live so close. It's probably harder to say, "sorry, I can't come over today" - then he sees your car in your driveway and he starts to wonder....
Maybe you should tell him that you want to keep the relationship special and spontaneous for a little while - tell him that you'll see him every OTHER day or something. I do think the magic will fade faster if you see each other every day... it'll get real old, real fast.
xxIndia
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2007): The magic stays if you take your blinders off, toss the significant other off the pedestal and remain realistic about what it is you want. Sounds to me like the current boyfriend is'not the "one". Young or old, you should never settle, life is to short. I have been married 25 years and my heart still pitter patters when I hear his car pull up and he still writes me goofy love notes, the magic stays if they are the one and your willing to put up with not so perfect sometimes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2007): I don't think it is a good thing to see someone every day if the relationship is new, it is not that things fade faster, it is just that it is then about dependency instead of love, you need to let love grow and friendship grow first to have a healthy relationship....so don't get in a rush.
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