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writes:hello, i am in a serious trouble with myself. how do you deal with friends with a very different cultural/religion values between them?i am having a difficult time with it.. i spend time with them (off course they are my friends, so we go for movies, dinner, shopping..etc). so some others are "judging" me about it. i mean..some of them said to me, how you can have that xx friends or how you can be part of that xx group..how you can believe in that xx stuff...i am feeling hurt since i appreciate all of them. but i know they almost hate each other and i feel uncomfortable. thanks for the advice. Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (6 November 2013):
 you keep them apart.
spend time with the friends you like without the friends that don't like them.
and when your judgmental friends say something you just smile and say "this topic is not open for discussion" and you let it go.
I had to check your age... it sounds like your judgmental friends are stuck in high school.
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reader, misssunshine  +, writes (6 November 2013):
 we are all different and we all have different believes. Just because someone is different religious doesn't mean u cant be friends, if ur friends hate each other coz of different culture or etc. u should maybe find more mature friends who are mind likely like u ..best of luck!
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reader, CMMP +, writes (6 November 2013):
I've never found it to be a problem, but that's probably because I don't care for judgemental people so I don't have these kinds of conflicts.
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reader, Questing for Love +, writes (6 November 2013):
 Simply give them an ultimatum. Tell them "I'm not part of that group, I'm just supporting my friends. True friends accept each other for who they are, whether or not they follow the same choices. So either we can all be friends, or you can find new friends, because I don't want to be friends with someone who doesn't support me when I support them."Okay, so that was a bit confusing. But it works. I had a best friend in elementary-high school who was friends with a guy that I constantly fought with. She told me that I couldn't be her friend if I wasn't his friend, and so I gave in and tried harder to be nice to him and in the end we're still sort of friends and I'm glad because he really is a kind-hearted person.Hopefully they'll understand and try harder to get along. Good luck!!
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reader, Bazinga  +, writes (6 November 2013):
 I don't see how this is an issue. Why are you bothered about what other people say about your friends?. If they are racist or ignorant why not correct or challenge them. If anything it's the ones making comments on your friends because of their cultural background that have the problem and should be avoided.
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