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writes:My boyfriend is friends with a girl who cheats on her boyfriend with a lot of guys. (she even admits it)I'm not trying to judge her but I feel uncomfortable with her being friends with my boyfriend. I've met her and have been around her. She comes off as someone who just doesn't have morals or respect for people. She flirts with everyone.I mean not only do I think what she is doing is really wrong, I get worried about her coming onto and flirting with my boyfriend. Am I just being crazy or is this something to worry about?
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reader, KC12 +, writes (9 November 2013):
 You have every right to be concerned. To not be concerned would show that you don't care about your BF and your relationship. You have every right to ask him to break away from his friendship with her. And, if he loves and cares about you he would gladly comply with your wishes. Because YOU are more important to him than that immoral, skanky girl. I look at it this way: If my bf was around people who did drugs all the time, I would be concerned that they'd influence him to take drugs. If he hung out with people who I KNEW were thieves I'd be worried he'd be influenced to shoplift. A girl like that doesn't even respect herself, or her own relationship with her on guy. She's not going to respect you, your guy, or your relationship either. I agree with what Code_Warrior said about passing judgement too...there's a certain amount of discernment there. It's almost like self-preservation. You make distinctions about the type of people you hang out with, and the types of people you want to avoid. Your boyfriend should be making those distinctions too...If he doesn't I can see you being uneasy. Why would he even want to be friends with someone like that? And, I can definitely see you being concerned that he must think this behavior is "okay" so then he might go ahead and cheat on you...As they say, "Like gravitates towards like." If he is a decent person who would never cheat, he'll comply with your wishes and end his friendship with her. ;) Good luck.
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reader, Bazinga  +, writes (7 November 2013):
 If you trust your boyfriend, if you know he will not cheat or has any emotional or physical connection with this woman no need to worry. Just because he is friends with her, you don't have to be. I don't know your bf's situation like if the girl is a childhood friend or a family friend of his who he has known for a long time.One of my childhood friends is a guy who cannot keep it in his pants, its no reflection on me, just who he is and none of my business. I'm sure the sex life of the girl is also none of your boyfriend or your business. Just let her be and enjoy your relationship.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (6 November 2013):
 The short answer is yes..you should be worried about it if you care about him at all,'cause temptation knocks and hemight answer. hormones are stronger than a boy's brain!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (6 November 2013):
 if you trust your boyfriend then you have nothing to worry about...
a committed man can be in a room full of naked women coming on to him and all he will say is "no thanks I have a girlfriend"
he may be turned on or flattered but how he FEELS about it has no bearing on how he ACTS upon it and in this case ACTIONS are all you have to worry about.
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reader, misssunshine  +, writes (6 November 2013):
 I think u have every right to worry about!!
why is ur bf even friend with her?? she is obviously cheater, layer and God knows what else...U should talk to ur bf and tell him u don't feel comfortable with their friendship ,and for sure if he cares about u he will ditch her no worries!!
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reader, CMMP +, writes (6 November 2013):
If you trust your boyfriend you have nothing to worry about. If he violates your trust you have a good reason to find a better boyfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2013): What is the old cliche about judging somebody based on the company they keep. You can do google search on the internet and you will find out that the over whelming evidence shows that cheaters hang around with cheaters. Adulterers hang out with or are close friends with other people who are adulterers also. You never said how long you have been going out with your boyfriend. If you are genuinely concerned you have a right to ask your boyfriend to stay away from the cheater. Take my word for me on this one, if she could get your boyfriend in the bed or back seat of the car she would. And if your boyfriend gets defensive it is quite possible he has been porking the cheater also. Then just pack this relationship up and move on with your life and be with a man that wants only you and not worried about tasting samples all the time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2013): You don't have to worry about HER, she's made it clear to everyone that she's a cheater and a whore. Yeah, sounds like she likes to come on to whomever she wants, but your boyfriend has to be strong enough to tell her to get away from him if she does try to cross the line. I would ask your boyfriend how he would feel or react if she came onto him. He may already realize what she is and be prepared to respond to her by making it clear that he's not interested. As for her, karma's a bitch and I'm sure she'll get stuck with a guy who will treat her the way she treats others.
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