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writes:Hey, I am 25 and completely useless and inexperienced when it comes to women. But i've been speaking to this girl for about 6 weeks now and we text and email every day. I've only managed to meet up with her a couple of times but now she's suggested that we go to the zoo. In my mind i am thinking (and hoping) that this is a date. Does it sound like that to anyone else? So i am thinking - i want this girl to know i like her, so do i talk to her and tell her or wait for the right moment and go for a kiss?! i'm terrified but really excited at the same time. Does a girl talk to someone everyday if she is not interested? i really don't want to muck this up or embarress her because i really like her and she seems like a really nice girl. Any comments and advice would be most appreciated! many thanks!
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reader, Ed1337 +, writes (21 September 2008):
 Glad it went ok, just remember not to rush anything and you will be fine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHeya, thanks everyone for their advice! Went out today. Had a really nice day, still not sure if there were any signs but we had a laugh and i hope we are at least becoming close friends. Nonetheless, i did go for a half- hearted attempt to swing from a cheek kiss to a lip kiss after i'd walked her home which ended embarrassingly with her turning her face away (it was a very awkward move on behalf and i spent the whole journey home wondering if she had even noticed - still - rookie error). We've been talking for quite a while now and i just wanted her to know i like her rather than letting her slip into friendship status (which, although i'd be upset, i'm happy with if she's not interested). It's feels like a really tough situation. anyway- i thought i'd blown even our friendship but we've been chatting for the last couple of hours on msn and it seemed like normal (although she's far too nice and would probably still talk to me if she hated me [Paranoia lol]). anyway- thought i'd let you know how it went. Thanks for the comments. Any thoughts are more than welcome. Thanks again :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2008): this is most definately a date but it also says she isnt ready to get too involved its far easy to part at the end of a lovely day together than part at bedtime, enjoy your day and leave her with a small kiss nothing more just tell her its been great and does she fancy another day out best of luck, i love a happy ending keep us posted
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reader, sarcy24 +, writes (19 September 2008):
 Most definitely it's a date. I would take her for lunch at the zoo and just chat and relax whilst looking at the animals. You could always have a hand hold in the aquarium where is is normally dark. I wouldn't start kissing unless you feel it is appropriate at the end of the day depending how you feel you got on. Be generous so buy the tickets to get in and a map, and coffees as you are going round. If it all goes well suggest you go for a drink afterwards. If you are going to London zoo it is quite spaced out with different tunnels connecting the two sides and a large aviary where you can walk through the birds and it can be quite quiet as you walk along the canal. Chatting will come easily as the animals will make it come naturally to you to find things to say. Compliment her on her appearance as well and make her feel attractive. Good luch you will be fine!
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reader, Ed1337 +, writes (19 September 2008):
It sounds like a date and it also sounds like she does have feelings for you. I wouldn't rush anything tho mate, sometimes its best to wait and make sure you both feel the same way before trying to kiss her, or confessing your feelings for her.
Just enjoy your day at the zoo, and if she does want to kiss you, i'm sure she will let you know.
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (19 September 2008):
 If this is a date, she wasn't really specific about it otherwise you wouldn't have asked the question. Maybe she just want to hang out.
Last time a girl invited me out, we went eating and for a walk to finish the night with a movie at my place. In my head it wasn't a date even though a lot of people would have thought so. It was just to enjoy her company.
Another time, a girl invited me out and didn't say it was a date but it felt like one. She felt awkward, shy, as if she had something to prove to me you know? As if she wanted me to love her.
What I do, and maybe it would help for you too, is never see a "going out" with a girl as a date. Just as friends. If the experience is repeated, and you both like each other's company, it will eventually become a relationship even if you don't want one.
Hope it helps! Have a great day! :)
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