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writes:well im almost 14 in like 2 months nd im gay im scared to tell my mom because everyone in my family thinks im trying to be like my sister and my sisters gay to and my dad is very religous and he told me not to tell him if i was ever gay but im afraid my mom will tell him im gay and my sisters gay to so if i tell my mom i think shell say your just trying to be like your sister Reply to this Question
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reader, AbiMF  +, writes (15 September 2008):
Hiya, I have to admit I actually disagree with some of the answers posted here; I think there can be more reasons for wanting to come out than just the neccesity because of relationships etc. I'm not saying you should tell your mum yet, but I know I've come out to various people purely because not saying anything was making me miserable. However, I told my mum when I was 14 and a bit (I'm nearly 16 now) and I know she's had difficulty accepting it because she felt I was too young to know, so you may need to be prepared for that from your mum too. Really, I think you just need to work out why you want to come out, if it's because you actually want to then by all means do, but don't feel that you have to, because you don't need to say anything until you're ready. Good luck whatever you decide to do and you can PM me if you want by all means,
Abi xxx
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reader, jkoh +, writes (8 September 2008):
 Emily is right. Unless you are in a seriouse relationship there is no need to tell her. You wouldn't tell your mom that you are straight would you. I also think that your mom would have the respect for you and your father to keep it a secret. I mean she is your mom.
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reader, unknown x +, writes (6 September 2008):
 I completely agree with Emilysanswers. There really is no need to tell them until you are in a serious relationship. I don't think telling them before hand would achieve anything but bad feeling.
As well as that, it is an extremely difficult thing to tell your parents, especially if you aren't very close to them or used to telling them things about yourelf. Don't cause yourself more worry than you have to at the minute. Wait until it's necessary. It is really only your business and nothing to do with your parents, until you decide it can not be kept private any more.
I hope my answer helped you a little. get back to us on what you decide to do :).
Unknown x
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (6 September 2008):
Well what would telling them achieve?
You aren't going to be bringing long term marriage prospects home for a few years yet.
The only time they need to know you are gay is when you meet someone who you think you want to move in and share your life with.
That is not happening while you are 14.
Wait a few years. They do not need to know the details of your love/sex life.
All that telling them now would achieve is drama and bad feelings for everyone. So don't do it!
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, gojira343 +, writes (6 September 2008):
if you are absolutley positive your gay then i think you should talk to your sister....you should feel that you can be open to tell your family whatever is bothering you and you should feel like you should be yourself....maybe you dont have to tell them just yet you might want to wait till you go out with someone....you might nt need to then either but if you want to be honest your family will love you for who you are....just do what feels right
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