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writes:There's a guy I like who I think likes me back. My birthday is coming up and some of our mutual friends are having a party for me and someone else. Now, my guy and I aren't dating but I really want him to know that I like him and I'd really like to kiss him at the party.I'm kind of shy around guys I like, especially this one so I don't even know how to begin to go about this. Does anyone have any advice?
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reader, [email address blocked] +, writes (13 June 2007):
[email address blocked] is verified as being by the original poster of the question![[email address blocked] agony aunt](/avatars/6210e5e8-1761-476c-91b2-0651f1f556b6.png) Thanks for all the advice! It turned out that he liked me and showed me by kissing me without me even hinting that it's what I wanted.
Now, however, it seems like I have another problem. We've seen each other every night since then and have only ever kissed. I don't want to have sex with him right now because I don't really know him, and he knows this. But I can tell that he'd like to do more than just kiss. Like I said, he knows I'm not ready to sleep with him right now, but I'm afraid to do anything other than kiss because it could lead him to think that I do want to have sex with him. Any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2007): I agree with DVI, waiting to hook up with a guy at a party to show him you like him can go all wrong....it is much better to chat with him and see how interested he is in finding out more about you.....I don't think you want to give him the wrong impression by telling him you want to kiss him, it makes you sound like a bit of a horn dog. Guys know when you want to kiss them, and then they go in first for that kiss, let him do that, and you will be on your way to winning a future date with him....
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reader, Advicehunny  +, writes (5 June 2007):
Try being youself you'll find out in time if he likes you try not to act nervos or diffrent around him be yourself try not to seem desprate he'll come to you when hes ready.
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (5 June 2007):
 Hun, I wouldn't tell him on your birthday JUST INCASE you get rejected... I'm not saying you will but just to be on the safe side.
Maybe write him a letter?
Or sit him down, just you and him and say "We've been mates for some time now... and my feelings for you have grown stronger.." Tell him what's on your mind basically.
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reader, Helen Help! :) +, writes (5 June 2007):
 Hey Huni
Urm well youll just have to try a bit of the flirty stuff i would if i was u ide go up chatting to him see if he seems like he wants to have a conversation with me then if he seems like he does i guess id ask him if hed like a drink n thn tlk some more asking him if hed like a drink shows him a definate sign of interest same if he asks u if ude like one if he does accept. Then after a few n a chat n im nt sayin take advantage of him but people do losen up after a little drink n will be more confident ask if hed like to dance n im sure things will go from there. But jus do the usually flirty things touching his arm leg ya no the usual if there chemistry or an attraction ur probably in for a kiss but u gotta show him ur interesed 1st n luk for the signs that he is in you good luck :)
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reader, DV1 +, writes (5 June 2007):
 Figure out if he likes you first. If you just tell him that you want to kiss him, he's going to assume that you just want a one night stand. It may end up going farther, and your birthday will be a day that you may come to regret for the rest of your life. Find out how he feels, first. Take things slowly. If he likes you, too, talk during the party. If you need to make it the night of your party, and you two feel the same way, don't force the subject. Let it happen on its own. Kissing someone is a special thing...
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reader, vervada123 +, writes (5 June 2007):
 Get your mates to dare you and him to kiss. Works every time!
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