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writes:It All Started a couple years ago, when i met this really nice boy richard, he gave me his number and we started talking more, we got really close then we started going out this boy was my "first love" we was going out for almost a year!. when we broke up i was really heart broken and didnt really no what to do so i just tried my best to forget about him!.I Didnt Hear or See Him For About 2 years untill the other week he emailed me on facebook i was shocked and really happy that he had got in contact with me. Soo we met up a couple times went out on a nice date and went back to his we ended up having unprotected sex witch was very silly of me. about a week before i met up with richard and had sex with him, me and a couple mates went to the G.U.M clinic where we was tested for any S.T.I Before i slept with richard i had been sleeping with a different boy ben. After i had slept with richard a couple days later and i get a phone call saying i need to get treatment and that i have chlamydia! my first reaction was to cry nothing like this has ever happened to me before.I spoke to ben who is the only other boy i had been reguarly sleeping with and told him to get tested then i realised i had slept with richard and given it to him!. I really do need to tell him Richard But these couple weeks all my feelings have come back for him and now i have to tell him this shocking news! since i have found out i had chlamydia i havent spoken to richard because i really do not know what to tell him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2010): Don't tell him you caught from someone else. Just tell him you have it.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (16 March 2010):
 You tell him that you were tested positive for chlamydia recently and request him to go for a test. Skip the other details.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (16 March 2010):
Sadly there is no easy way. But you do need to tell him, as it could cause him serious trouble or he could pass it on. Your best bet is to phone him, say you have something to tell him and say that you caught it from someone else and you have probably given it to him. Don't go around the issue, be direct. I can't tell you how he will respond, and though he may be angry and hurt, in the long run he will thank you for telling him. Be direct, and be very calm about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2010): I think if you give the clinic richars details then they will get in touch with him and tell him he needs to be tested therefore he doesn't know it came from you. However you also had a year long relationship relationship therefore maybe just fess up, say you never exspected to get kinky with him and just got tested for a lugh with your mates - you had no idea you had anything otherwise you would not have touched him. Remember, its only chlamydia - it can be cured.
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reader, Auntie E  +, writes (15 March 2010):
 Dear L, You "realy do not know what to tell him"? Start with the truth. Put yourself in his place. You owe that to him. p.s. start using condoms for Godsake!
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reader, Riku Tsumi +, writes (15 March 2010):
First of all, don't stop talking to him, he's probably hurt and confused that you slept with him and now poof you've disappeared, you need to be honest with him. Before you tell him though make sure he realizes how much you like him. It is treatable as you've mentioned, so be sure to do some research and have him tested, if he has it, he needs treatment. I know you've said this already but I must add that it was seriously irresponsible and down right wrong of you to have sex when you hadn't gotten your tests back yet. Even if you had protected sex that doesn't stop you from infecting others.
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