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writes:I am in love with an amazing girl,though she is like a family member to me,we have known each other since the begining of our lifes (or for as long as we can remember or been told) her mom is like my mom she took care of me when I was a baby,I hardly grew up with her because she moved around a bit,from my country,to another and then another and then another,untill we were torn apart for about 7 years probably a bit less.We are NOT blood related,her mom does not see us together,she sees us as family.Brother and Sister,Cousins.Unfortunately for her.....we do not.She loves me and I love her,we love eachother with all our hearts and we intend to one day hopefully spend the rest of our lives together.Her mom will kill us (both metaphoriccally and literally speaking)So I don't really know if what I'm saying is under the same catagory of a question but I just wanted some advise,normally I am the one giving all my friends advises telling them what they should and should not do,and looking out for everyone,but this time,I think it's time I asked a question,and I needed help.See my mom knows,and her sister knows,but her mom and my sisters don't know or our dads =/ I don't think I can live without her,I need some kinda of help or advise please btw she is also 17. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2010): Where is the problem here? You are not related by blood, or even by marriage.
You are no more realted to this girl than to any other girl you have ever met in your life.
It matters not how this mother feels... you two are NOT family. Biologically and lawfully, you have never been.
So get this relationship out in hte open now, and let her mother see you care not what she thinks. That her choices are be happy for the two of you or loose her daughter by her own hand.
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reader, Arahn  +, writes (16 March 2010):
 I know what you are going through. It is going to take so much courage and strength to be able to go to her mother and tell her together how you two feel about each other. This is something you two are going to have to do in order to spend the rest of your lives with each other. There is going to be a lot of disappointment and hurt. But in the long run; hopefully they will learn to except the fact that you two are in love. If not and you have a situation where the parents are so disappointed that they seem to disown you, then you have to take that into consideration. Can you live with that? Would that be worth your happiness? From my experience everything great comes with a sacrifice.
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reader, Auntie E +, writes (15 March 2010):
 Dear CharmedNoodles - question: Why will her mom kill you both? Get back to me and we'll see if we can sort this out.
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