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writes:My guy never admits he's wrong in fights. Even though my feelings are really hurt and I am crying and everything, he acts like he didn't do anything wrong. In reality, he did, and he only sees it in his point of view no matter how I explain it to him. Its really annoying and hurtful. When we're not fighting everything's fine. But when we do fight, he acts like a total complete pain. Not nice. How do I tell him this? Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, sunkissed29 +, writes (21 May 2011):
sunkissed29 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your input Lovely Sweet Laura. Yeah, what you said totally makes sense. It is a defense mechanism and they are pretty emotionally immature. I have invested a lot in the relationship, and I do not want to leave him just like that. However, at the same time, I hope I'm not too blinded by love. I guess that's for myself to figure out..
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reader, Lovely Sweet Laura  +, writes (20 May 2011):
 My boyfriend is the exact same way and trust me he won't change. I've learned to become accustomed to it. The only way I can usually get through to him is by not letting his actions/behaviors bother me so much and approach it in a very non-threaten way. I believe it is their own insecurities that keep them from admitting they are wrong -half the time I think deep down they know this is the case but admitting it means they aren't perfect and they have yet to come to terms with the fact that no one in this world is. I have no trouble admitting I was wrong especially if I hurt someone I care about. You would expect that they would be the same but they are emotionally immature and unable to admit fault as they will then feel they failed so they build up the story in their head to work in their favor as a defense mechanism and convince themselves they are right. It isn't easy being in a relationship where someone is so selfish and it will get to you from time to time no matter how patient you are. You are still young, if you haven't invested to much in the relationship yet I would leave him if I were you but understand how love can sometime concur logic. I have broken up with my BF 2 times over 11 years but I always end up taking him back because I love him.
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