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30-35,
*unkissed29
writes:I feel like I care too much about my relationship. I've been with my boyfriend for over 2 years, and we love each other very much. I know he loves and cares about me, but I feel like I care about it way more than him. I want to spend time with him a lot (not every single day, maybe just some quality time every other day or at least 3 times a week is fine). We're both pretty busy, but he's busier than me... or at least he fills up his schedule with a bunch of stuff and I'm left feeling like I'm not much of a priority anymore. Sometimes I feel like he puts his friends before me. Trust me, I am not clingy and I do not try to make him hang out with me only. I like my independence too. He doesn't value quality time together with me anymore, it seems. All we do is have sex, go out to dinner sometimes, and take naps (we dont live with each other he comes over). The rest of the times, its with his friends. Basically, my point is that I feel like I prioritize him way more than he does to me. It kind of brings me down and makes me feel like there's something off about the relationship. How do I make him less of a priority, if that's even the right way to go about this? Thanks for your help. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2011): Yeah.. sounds like the typical male, young or old. They act as though they are married to they're friends. It's time for you to pull back and bit and without warming. I suggest you read a book called "Why men love bitches" by Sherry Argov. You can purchase it offline at Amazon.com. Before you do anything, go out and buy the book and follow her instructions as they do work. You can also read the comments made on the website as well. Don't allow this type of behavior to get worse--because, believe me, it will if you allow it. Your boyfriend may love you, in addition, he just seems to love spending time with his friends more. I know how you feel because, I currently have the same issue with my boyfriend and we have been seeing each other for about a year and a half and he loves being with his friends. He will even cut our time short to go at the last minute to hang out with them...while asking me to tag along. Just read the book, as I am, and go from there.
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