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male
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41-50,
*Brown1
writes:I am in a relationship with an amazing woman for over a year. We live together, are planning on marriage soon, and recently discovered she is pregnant. All this is wonderful and she is constantly on my mind. I really love her she is wonderful in more ways then i can say. I feel i go above and beyond to make her feel special, be romantic, and suprise her as often as possible. but, i dont feel she puts effort in this area. I do my very best to handle household chores and meals because she works a retail schedule, im really busting my butt to take a load off her day. instead of spending her mornings or days off doing the same for my day, she does her own things, social networking, Oprah, etc. I fell at times Ive set myself up to be takin advantage of. some examples- -i am always leaving her little love notes, texts, emails.....unless i initiate she doesnt do these things.-meetin up for a lunchbreak is always my idea, i believe she doesnt care if we meet up or not, she seems perfectly content doing it alone.-sex is %95 initiated by me.-I do most laundry, dishes, sweeping, yardwork, and basic cleaning and i do work fulltime as well. and doing all this i still find time to be extra special to her.if i purposely leave something waiting to see if it will get done it seldom does. frustrating.All i need is suprised from time to time and to feel wanted and needed. I do my best to keep my past, in the past. she seems to not be able to let go of hers...meaning i dont let any of my old pictures, letters, or items present them self innapropriatly, her past is always showing itself and she refuses to disgard or just hide some of these things. although i know this stuff is a part of her, not sure it has any place in our lives.
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reader, Drew21  +, writes (20 May 2011):
 I would sit down and talk to her about this.
Let her know that you feel there is more give then take in this relationship.
Also, i don't think it IS too much for her to, at some point, leave the past in the past. I think that's difficult for ANYONE in a committed relationship.
We all have our baggage, but it's important that we move on at some point, ya know?
Again, talk to her about this.
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