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writes:About 3 months ago I moved into a new apartment. Turns out a guy I slept with a year ago lives in this same apartment building, and I had no idea until I saw him. He didn't see me, and that I know of, he still hasn't. I'm too embarrassed to admit that I completely forgot that he lives here and that I was way too drunk to remember. I want to talk to him though because it would be nice to know someone in the building and maybe have a friend to go out with here in the neighborhood. How do I go about doing this without seeming like a creepy stalker?
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reader, Blonde68  +, writes (1 February 2011):
I agree... don't seek him out, and no doubt eventually, at some point you will pass each other. Just say hi and see if he actually remembers you! He may have a girlfriend anyhow, you just don't know, since you know very little about him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2011): Smile and be cordial. Perhaps even mention that you remember him....
But let him initiate anything more with you. He may very well have a girlfriend at the moment.
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reader, Abella  +, writes (1 February 2011):
 Tread lightly in this encounter. At this stage you have nothing in common and he may or may not be OK for a friendship. Plus if you are too enthusiastic to be his friend he may assume you want a FWB relationship immediately. Or he could destroy your reputation with the neighbors immediately with loose chatter about how he first met you.
Just act lady like. He may not even recall you.
Observe him, but don't go out of your way to talk to him.
Politely greet him as if you are strangers. Because that is what you are. And you know very little about him.
Take things very slowly and do not allow him to assume he can take more liberties with you than you would allow a stranger to take.
But don't directly seek him out. Allow it to happen naturally and without deliberate intent to meet him.
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reader, Demoni +, writes (1 February 2011):
 Assuming you broke up on good terms go to his door and give him a knock. tell him you just moved in and were surprised to find a friendly face. Or arrange to accidentally bump into him and then act surprised. Maybe mention that you'd seen him in passing but weren't sure if it was him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAnd let me say that this is not an ex boyfriend. This was a one night stand.
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