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writes:I need some help.Me and my girlfriend have been in a relationship for seven months now and its going brilliantly. We see each other regularly, go out often and our sex life is very good.But there's an issue. I have noticed on occasion that her 'downstairs' hygiene is not great. This makes it very unappealing to give oral even though I want too.How do I tell her without hurting her or offending her. She takes these kinds of things very personally.What do I do?
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reader, fishdish  +, writes (24 January 2011):
 you dont have to say it's a turn off or that it kills the mood to get your pt across. I would echo the last aunt and consider the 'it's easier to go down on you when you've made it easy for me' strategy. For example, my bf gets 'slowed down' by having to deal with stray pubic hairs that he has to get out of his mouth.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2011): Do you finish inside her? One of the biggest odor producers in women is semen. Try using a condom for a while and see if this helps.
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reader, Odds +, writes (24 January 2011):
 Try the subtle hints listed below first. With luck, she'll read too much into what you're saying and start taking steps to help with the smell.
There will always be some smell, but if her hygiene is good it should be bearable. Might be best to go for it right after she showers, as suggested.
If those don't work, sit her down at a non-stressful time and tell her, "I'd like to go down on you more often, but I need you to be as fresh and clean as possible first." Don't use words like "odor" or "smell." You're being diplomatic here, not clinical or critical. The tone should be "Help me, help you."
If she gets upset, which is entirely possible, end the discussion. You two should be able to talk about these things like adults if you're going to be doing them, but if either one of you can't, arguing about it will only make things worse.
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reader, No watered down advice here! +, writes (24 January 2011):
 Some things soap and water can’t wash away. An antibiotic has to come into play! ijs! Ask her when was the last time she seen her GYN? And that should open the door for you to tell her gently about her odor, even suggest you will go w/her.
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reader, dmartin89 +, writes (24 January 2011):
 ...ortable.
If you really can't bear it, then don't go down on her. Suggestion a sexy shower is a good idea. However it is unlikely to get rid of all the smell. Make sure not to get a mouthful of bubbles.
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reader, dmartin89 +, writes (24 January 2011):
Does this mean that her vagina has an odour?
I just want to remind you that it is normal for a woman to have a smell to her, it isn't necessarily due to poor hygiene.
I know lots of women who are bed embarrassed about it, despite washing regulary and using special feminine deodrants and sprays.
Do you know for a fact that she has bad hygiene? She most likely already knows and has done for a while that she gas a noticeable odour and is aware that you notice it too.
Unless you have been in a stable relationship for a while; by this I mean more than a few months, I wouldn't tell her because you will both end up being embaressed and uncomf
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (24 January 2011):
 ASK her to have a nice, sexy shower with you.
And don't forget two forms of birth control if you are also having penetrative sex. :^D
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