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writes:I'm becoming really obsessed with ex boyfriend. He broke up with me 2 weeks ago and I'm still in love with him. I've texted him almost everyday since we broke up telling him how much I miss him, how I want him back and apologizing for the mean things I said to him when we broke up but he hasn't responded to any of my texts. Am I becoming really psychotic? And how do I stop myself from texting him when I think about him all the time?
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (24 February 2011):
 Delete his number and any way that you can contact him. If you remove the temptation, then you'll think about him a lot less... trust me, you'll feel much better.
There is nothing you can say in a msg to him that is gonna make him come back, if he wants to get back in contact with you, he will when he's ready.
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reader, LovelessAct1 +, writes (24 February 2011):
You need to convince yourself that he clearly doesn't want communication. By trying to contact him, you're only making things worse on yourself. If he really wanted to talk to you he would have responded by now. At this point, its clear he really just needs space. Grant that to him and try moving on.
Spend more time with friends, on school work, whatever. Maybe in a month or two you can send him a message and ask how he's doing, but right now its not helping you or him to be in contact with him.
Best of luck. I know how hard break ups can be. But trust me, you'll be much better off just concentrating on yourself right now.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (24 February 2011):
Psychotic would mean that you're living in your own reality. I think you're in touch with reality and know that it's over and he doesn't want to talk to you; hence, not responding to your texts.
Seriously, sit and think about how you feel right now. Don't you feel silly for texting him constantly and feeling like a psycho because he's not talking to you? You're humiliating yourself and you know that you need to stop. You WILL feel better if you stop trying to contact him. It's all about willpower, my dear. When you get the urge to text him, call a friend. Go for a walk. Go take a cold shower. Anything you can do BESIDES tying to make contact with him. It's about keeping yourself busy. Have some self control and don't allow yourself to text him. It's obviously not getting you anywhere and not getting him back with you, so you might as well stop.
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reader, JustinNki +, writes (24 February 2011):
 Exactly like splashy said, we all go through it. I want to give you the advice that his friends probably gave him, and my friends gave me (but I didnt follow). lolDo not text him, ignore him, eventually he probably will text you back, But yes, I'm kind of in the processs of a breakup. I left the state and didn't talk to her at ALL. She texted me everyday and called and I just ignored it. It's soo hard to do, you just have to keep yourself busy and GET RID OF THE PHONE. Everytime I went out with family which was really good for me, I left my phone at home. It helped alooottGood luck :)
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reader, Splashy  +, writes (24 February 2011):
 Hi....:) To me your just love we all go through it some go through it even harder...But me personal its commen but just give it time an you'll heel from it all...Go out meet new people an stay busy an you'll forget all about him..Go an do things with your girlfriends to keep ya mind off things... If you were to just stop texting he's gonna try an figure why she's not texting anymore... Just act like nothing really matters anymore... Or do this texts him an say "this is my last text im not gonna continue to bother you i get it you dont wanna be with me anymore so im gonna have to put my feeling for you aside an just try moving im sorry for everything i said" then end it with"i hope you can accept my apology"......That will make him feel like your really moving on...But other then that you shouldnt chase ah boy cause your just emotionally hurting yourself.. good luck :)
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