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male
age
30-35,
*ing of Amateurs
writes:So I had met this girl back last summer at my camp. We were both CITs [Counselors in Training]. I knew I was going to fall for her as soon as I saw her and tried to hold back my feelings as long as I could. I talked to her and while we had little in common as she was more into sports and I'm more into video games we seemed to connect.We talked over games of Pac-man when we played it at camp. Some might have called it flirting but I didn’t see it as flirting. The first week we were at camp together we would have these water bottle fights where we would hit our water bottles against each other and the first day at camp close to the end, she put her arm on my shoulder. She then moved it away after a couple minuets saying she was tired. This one little kid who was giving me trouble--she helped me get him off of me leading to the kid not to like her and to act afraid of her. She then began to say it was because she was ugly I knew she was joking and wanted to tell her she was beautiful or pretty but was afraid that would be showing my feelings for her and I just said she was not ugly and was cool. Eventually she spelled it out that she wanted me to say she was pretty in her own way and I did. At the end of the first week when I was leaving she gave me a hug and we said our goodbyes for that week.During the second week we were at camp we began to talk less but still talked. During a long ride in a camp van she through a water bottle at my p* for no real reason that I could tell. On the last day of camp I was planning on telling her my feelings for her, and had an entire plan planned out but it rained which ruined my plan and I began to chicken out. The night before I had written her a song and was planning on showing it to her, so I showed it to a friend first to see his opinion on if I should give it to her, and he did a happy dance because he had known I liked her even though I had denied it for the past weeks. He said I shouldn't and then during the last couple hours of camp we began to have these secret meetings on what my course of action should be, the girl and her friend caught on and tried to figure out what we were talking about. I refused to tell and eventually the girls began a game of truth and dare. The girl I liked asked me first and I picked truth and she asked me if I liked someone, I said yes, and she asked who. I stalled and eventually she dared me to tell her. I did after stalling for an hour and she lost interest in the dare as I took an hour. So I finally told her and from my point of view she didn`t seem to care so much. We went the last half hour not talking, I avoided her as I thought she was mad at me, though she didn`t try and say anything to me either. Sorry this is so long and some parts might be out of place as it was last summer and while I remember the major parts some things I don`t completely remember.
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reader, Abella +, writes (27 February 2011):
 Because you lacked the confidence to act, you instead faltered and delayed.
You are still just putting one little step into the water. A bolder approach would have been better accepted by this girl. When you like a girl, you let her know.
By your eye contact, your smiles, your actions etc.
And you get her contact details so she knows you are interested. And you remember key things
She gave you some clear signals that she liked you, but you were slow to act on them. Over time you will get better and i hope you get to meet her again
Better luck next time
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